How many of us single parents look for protential father's instead of a mate??

Canada
February 27, 2007 1:30pm CST
I am a single mother of two active boys age's 5 and 2, when I look for a partner I tend to study the way they act around children,how they respond and so forth to what children do in very way, But also I think it would be wonderful to have a father figure for my children. I always worry and observe how they react around my children, If this man is wonderful and makes me feel like gold it doesn't matter if I am falling head of heels for him, my children come first...So this is my question instead of worrying so much and studing how they react around my children should I relax some until I see something to worry about???? Or am I doing the right thing???????
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@smacksman (6074)
27 Feb 07
I'm intrigued to know what assets you looked for in your previous choice of mates if it wasn't the fathering attribute you seek now. Or is it now that you realise it was the most important asset all along?
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• Canada
27 Feb 07
I always look for a father attribute and it tends to take me to a place where I get to picky the father assets are to huge for me...I think it even stops me from being happy....thanxs for ur responds
@nan3ng (4)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Hi, I am a single mother of a 5 year old daughter.. I totally understand what you're trying to stay. After her father and I split up, I always thought.. "I need to look for another father figure." I didn't realize that I was looking someone for my kids and not for myself. As a mother, natural instinct would be to put our kids first but relax.. go with the flow for awhile. Worry about it when it comes along. If you find someone who is great, most likely, your kids will like him too and vice versa. Just always be open and honest.
• Canada
28 Feb 07
Thanxs for the advice..The thing is I have found someone that is great, nice,caring,understanding and so forth we have been seeing each other for a short while, but the thing for me is that my motherly instinct kicks in like a radar and is something that I need to try not to do as much...U are right thanxs for the advice...Oh and honesty kicks me butt shhhhhh don't tell anyone LOL,thats another one of the things I need to kick bk on...
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
I have to say that you are definately doing the right thing as i am also a single mother and i will not settle for anyone who is just there for me. I have to see a lasting connection between him and my children or it will never work!! Our children have to come first and you are a wonderful mother and your posts prove that!!
• Canada
27 Feb 07
Thank you very much u so sweet LOL....I do believe a women should always put there children first no matter what, there the most important ....