how many times should u forgive ur partner when he/she cheats on you?

Philippines
February 27, 2007 7:48pm CST
is there such a thing? we'll i know a lot of people who would still give their partners more than one chances...hehehehe..are u one of them? hehehe
6 responses
@Giggles88 (542)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I would never forgive someone for cheating on me. I might stay with them but it wouldn't last very long after. I can't have a relationship without trust, honesty, commitment, and faithfullness. I just couldn't look in their face ever again without thinking about what they did to me. That's like stabbing me in the back and then trying to get me to forgive them for it. I don't beleive that you can cheat on someone by accident.
• United States
28 Feb 07
Oh but I want you to know that it's not a bad thing to forgive but it's better not to with cheating. It lets them know that they can get away with it.
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
point take...tnx
• Canada
28 Feb 07
Hi. I don't think there should be such thing as a second chance. The ultimate betrayal. About 99% of the time it's so sad but even more true; Once a cheater, always a cheater. I have had friends go through that puddle of slime where they get cheated on and forgive like ten times before they leave... All the while blaming themselves while it's happening and feeling shittier and shittier every day. The last girl I dated (about 5 years ago) before I met my wife cheated on me and got pregnant doing it while I was away at school. I broke it off and never spoke with her again. What if I hadn't? I'd have been stuck in a garbage relationship, probably have a twitch in my left eye and a bag full of complexes, and I wouldn't have met my future wife six months later. Thank GOD I made that choice. If someone cheats on you, you are too good for them. End of story. In almost every case, it has nothing to do with the person being cheated on, but the person who's doing the cheating. Don't look at yourself when it happens, look at them. Look at them and think, I am so glad this happened now so I can let you go before I get in too deep and it's that much harder.
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
guess what, i got myself in the same situation that u got urself into...i got cheated and, worst, i even took her back after she said her "sorry"...but i knew it will no longer work out since i would always have that fear of beeing left out again...so we gave it up...i was hurt bad but am glad it happened...it made decide not to rely my self worth with somebone else...am a gift...even when other people think otherwise....
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
forgiveness comes purely from the heart. If a person is asking for your forgiveness every now and then and you still cant find in your heart to forgive that person because of the pain, its ok not to forgive for now. its better to forgive genuienly..
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
wow...i admire ur thruthfulness...i just hope people in this situation can keep that in mind...not to force forgiveness on someone...tnx for the response..
• United States
28 Feb 07
I don't think you you should ever forgive them. Cheating is cheating, and theres no excuses for it. If you love the person you are with, there is no reason to have somebody on the side. I know people cheat all the time, I actually have a friend who has been married 13 yrs, and cheats on his wife all the time, and always has!!! The saddest thing about it is, she knows about it!!! She allows him to do it because she doesn't think she can get anybody else. She is one of those people who forgives all the time. I honestly don't understand it because I think that it is uncalled for. I would never forgive anybody who cheated on me..I'd rather be alone, than to ever tolerate anything like that. Everybody is entitled to there own opinion, but Thats just how I feel.
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
wow...tough one...but i respect ur opinion on that..tnx for responding...
@webbuff (926)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
I guess it depends on the "cheat" anyone makes. i forgive my partner if its just a simple cheat like .. eating our favorite cake without me. =) but big mistake like having other partner/flirting is different.. and for me if my partner did that... my observation is she im not that important anymore in her life.. so breakaway.. you'll be hurt more.
@Crystal5 (65)
• United States
28 Feb 07
No once a cheater always a cheater. That's what I've been told by many who have forgiven their partner. I also learned that the hard way. I thought that maybe forgive them this once but then he did it again with my ex-bestfriend. So now I live by once a chater always a cheater.