Would you search for a father who abandoned you?

February 28, 2007 1:07am CST
A close friend of mine recently asked for my help in finding his father who abandoned them 28 years ago. He flew overseas to work to uplift their living conditions. Unfortunately, after some time, the phone calls just stopped. And after searching endless days and nights, she found out that her father re-married(I'm not sure if it will be accepted as her father is still married to her mother). The last phone call they received 15 years ago says that her father is so ashamed of what he did and doesn't have the courage to show his face ( I think he only said this to be able to give some reason to disappear). But even after all this time, her mother still loves him and stayed loyal:celebrates his birthdays and their anniversaries. Life had been rough since he left them. But after all this time and all that has happened, she still wants to look for him. She said she just wanted to know what it feels like to have a father, even if he doesn't want them anymore. I think she has to move on and deal with it but I really don't know what she feels for me to judge her. What would you have done if you were in her shoes?
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@aries_0325 (3062)
• Philippines
10 Jan 08
I will look for him, I would like to know why my mother is very loyal despite of what he did it to her. Because we didn't really know what happened maybe they what to be quiet what is the real reason.
• United States
28 Feb 07
My mother got pregnant right out of high school. My father offered to marry her and she turned him down. She still went over to his house and gave him a picture when I was born and told him that he could see me. I didn't meet my father until I was 14 and that is only because I tracked him down. Now I have a decent relationship with my father, we talk on the phone, because we live in different states.