Marriages
By mdarma
@mdarma (868)
Singapore
February 28, 2007 1:21am CST
Do you accept arranged marriages?
At this time you do not have any individuals in mind. ie. you don't love anyone.
5 responses
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I might just do that. Why not? As long as I get to date them first and see if they are someone I would want to be with, who knows?
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@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
6 Mar 07
Yes, I agree that NO one can force one into marry. However, arranged marriage does not necessary mean that there is a forced marriage. Here, it simply means that the parents are looking for a suitable partner, the final decision lies totally of the two who are getting married.
Thank you for sharing
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
4 Mar 07
It's hard to say. Although I believe in love and making your own commitment. There are so many marriages that arranged and seem to last a lot longer than those that are not. Maybe it is in the way they raise there children and not the fact that the marriage was arranged. So I guess I have mixed feelings. I just wish more people respected marriages and the commitments that come with them.
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
4 Mar 07
Hi iimosona1,
Thank you 4 the respond. Yes the bringing up of childern is an important factor. Here usually their are thaughtbto respect the others feel and don to come up with erradical answers and hurt the others feel.
Not only that, I have given some views that are practised when I responded to mylot friend KelvinChan
Cheers
@KelvinChan (76)
• Singapore
4 Mar 07
I have mixed feelings about arranged marriage.
On one hand, I do not like arrange marriage because I do not have a chance to get to know or decide the life partner that I wanted.
On the other hand, our culture also believes in astrology. In this aspect, the stars of both partners were checked and agreed to match well. Like a marriage make in heaven and executed on earth. Where the couple lives happily ever after...
This is the situation most people yearned for.
Let's have a trade off where young people have a chance to make more friends. Subsequently, parents check the stars of their closer friends to determine whether they are suitable life partners. How about that?
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@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
4 Mar 07
The arranged marriages these days have come to a small twist, but b4 that. The parenst of both parties do have their little birds or 007, there are check s done, just to ensure what the others side is tell is the truth and not a pack of lies. Having said this, if all are ok and the astrological are ok, Usually, the boy and the girl do get to talk each other and they do get the chance to go out. It is after this then the final decision is made.
Thanks for your respond Kelvin
@Angelika1972 (189)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Do I accept them?
Like if my mother tried to hook me up with someone, would I be ok with that?
No!
If my best friend could hook me up with someone I'd be more likely to take him seriously.
I've heard that arranged marriages last longer than other types of marriages.
I think it has A LOT to do with the fact that people just pick someone that turns them on physically and don't consider who the other person is spiritually & emotionally.
I've never been married, but I have been in long term relationships. I don't think most people realize that when you're first in the relationship, everything is GREAT. Even his quirks seem cute to you.
But after a while you might start hating the things about him that were cute to you when you first met him.
If you give it long enough (barring any type of abuse) then the feelings of love might come flooding back.
Most people these days aren't willing to stick with it, though.
So, basically I agree with arranged marriages in theory.
I would not be willing to put it to the test, LOL.
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