Did you "Find Yourself" Alone or Do you Think Someone Helped you Along the Way?

@Jshean20 (14374)
Canada
February 28, 2007 2:20am CST
Well I know how hard it can be to find one's self and from personal experience I know that the people you surround youself with can make all the difference in the world. Personally it was my mother and my boyfriend who helped me find myself. Do you believe that a person can find themselves without the assistance of another person, or do you think it's almost always necessary? At what age did you find yourself and do you think it was with the help of other people?
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@mssnow (9496)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I dont think I have found myself yet. I Have always had people help me out. I sometimes wonder if i will ever find myself .
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@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
28 Feb 07
I used to wonder the same thing about myself.
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• United States
28 Feb 07
I think we may be influenced by those who surround us but in the end it's up to us to find the real YOU. Nobody else can bring you to the reality of who you are. They can take your hand and lead you but you have to walk on your own. I honestly didn't become "ME" and the "ME" I love being until my divorce. At that point I realized how strong I really am and how I always used to think I needed someone to make me complete, even if it wasn't someone who treated me right. Now I'm so strong and I know I can do things on my own, some things an average person can't even begin to imagine doing. And with the guidance and love of my parents, sister and kids I know I have figured out for sure who I am and what I can accomplish. I've never been happier in my life then right now. And oddly enough, materialistically I have a lot less then when I was trying so hard to be happy. Just proves that money does NOT buy happiness! By the way... I was about 37 I think when I kicked out the ex.
@sammantha (278)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Yes my mom has helped me throw the years and my husband is the the to help me to find myself.
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@abednego7 (1060)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
In my case I still searching where I'm fit most. My parents always reminding me where the right path to step on, but my free spirit always try a different way. I also count on bible to guide my choice of living life. Unfortunately until now I'm not sure what I'm heading for. I'm trying to be as responsible as I can and consider my family in every decision I made. Maybe someday, somehow and someway I'll find my true self and hope that its more better that what I used to have.
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• United States
28 Feb 07
I had no help from anyone in finding my way. I think was because of having no-one who encouraged me in any of my choices or decisions that I found my way alone. I was almost 20 years old when I decided to leave the country of my birth and make my own way in the world. Thinking back I have no regrets and the lyrics of the song "I Did it My Way" really describes me.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I don't know if i have completely found myself as yet...but i do think you need assistance from another person to help you find it.i know that all my growth has been a result of someone doing something that would make me plunge forward...Sometimes its really not friendly help but nevertheless it was a result of someone doing something.I am sure i have a long way to go but reality set in for me around 49 years old....
• United States
11 Apr 07
This is a very good question and I'm not sure that I have a right answer for it. I guess I can say that I still have to find myself. Yet, I do this both by myself and with the help of others. I don't know if they have a name for my kind of person; but I'm the type of person that relies on others to make decisions for me. Yet, if I take the path that I was guided to and find it's not for me, I find another way by myself. If that makes any sense to you? I hope you understand what I'm trying to say.
@kelly60 (4550)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I'm not sure if I have actually found myself yet. I think it is an ever going process. I am much happier with my life now than I have been in a long time though. My kids and I have been on our own for about 10 years now since we left my ex, and that was the best decision I could have ever made. I guess he pushed me to that one if you want to put it that way. By the way, when we left him I was around 35 years old. We all have choices to make in life, and I'm not sure where life's path will lead me. All I know for sure is that it is heading in a better direction that from where it once was.