We choose our friends, but not our family?

February 28, 2007 7:34am CST
I have a brother who's a drug addict (by choice, he started at 23!), a sister who's a pathological liar as well as plain evil, and a father who's sacrificed his kids for his various women all his life. He now does the same with his grandkids. I don't feel like having anything to do with either of them! There are other people I'd rather spend time with. Does that make me a bad person?
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• Australia
2 Mar 07
under your circumstance i can see why you choose not to have anything to do with them. however you must find it in you heart to forgive them. maybe not neccessarily be with them but get passed your angry. i think it is importannt for you to have life with no regrets. i know its hard to have a difficult family. i know from experience but its not healthy to live a life of anger. know that you have a responsibility to forgeive. try to see the good in them and im sure you'll feel better. if not, im sorry
• Norway
2 Mar 07
I forgive them, I just choose not to deal with them, so as to not get hurt again...
@Joslyn77 (374)
• United States
2 Mar 07
No is does not. At some point you must seperate yourself so you can have a healthier life and show some tough love. I grew up with parent who were alcholics and very emontioally abusive and I moved out when I was 20 just so I could stay sane and not kill myself. Not saying that they have to be out for the rest of your life,but at least until they can get themselves well. I finely did let them back into my life about ten years later and by that time I got married and had three beautiful children.
• Norway
2 Mar 07
Yes, it's all about staying sane, isn't it? I have all i need in my family and friends, and even if they are family too, they're just not worth the effort...
@justreal (2367)
• Canada
28 Feb 07
We do choose our friends and not family. For some people, they are happy with friends and family at the same time and some people don't. My opinion to this discussion is that you find your friends closer and there for for more than your own family.