Sick of superficial men and their games

United States
February 28, 2007 1:15pm CST
So now these days men have been blinded by the media that an overweight or obese girl is gross or not pretty. (this is long but interesting) Just about a year ago a friend of mine told me she loved this guy since elementary. They had been friends for years and finally when High School came around her feelings became really strong for him. (HS blows anyway) So she never told him but she would call me all the time telling me how much she liked him. So I was this medium to get them to hook up. So I talked to him and he said I don't really like her that way. I asked him why. He just kept saying she is not my type she is just a friend. So I am like how come why dont you two just go on a date. So they did and it was horrible. He didn't want to hold her hand or make eye contact with her, or he didn't say much. She called me up crying saying that he doesn't like a chick with just a few pounds and he rather go out with a leaner girl. That's some bull right there. Then like a few weeks later he hooked up with anorexia from across the street and she treats him like dirt but he likes it. My friend is such a sweet girl and she even paid for that date and tried to talk with him she even let him drive her new car. They aren't friends anymore, this is very retarded. She has such a sweet personality and she is not ugly she has the cutest face. (btw she called me up today and she is sooo happy with life now) I am just mad at this skinny thing nowadays I am very upset. Sorry for the long rant but it's true.
2 responses
@beaniegdi (1964)
7 Mar 07
it does seem so in the media but in real life guys like girls in all different sizes. but guys are different from girls in that they will have a 'type' that they always go for, it maybe they like thin girls, it maybe they like big girls or blonds or red heads and they will always go for this one type. girls are different as we like guys for all sorts of reasons and will go out with a guy because we like him not because he is our 'type'. because of this it does happen that if a guy marries a big girl because she is his type and then after the marriage she decides to lose weight, she might be happy to be thinner but he will not find her attractive any more as she is no longer his 'type'. your friend will find someone so don't worry, at least this guy did give it a try but if she is not his 'type' then he will not have been able to find her attractive in that way - even if he likes her as a friend.
@mbizmom (237)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I would tell your friend not to worry about it, if she loves who she is other people's love will follow. When guys are young they are looking for a piece of booty, not a partner. As your friend and the guys she's interested in get older their priorities will change. An adult male will focus more on personality and compatibility then with just looks. I know several guys that were shallow like this when young but ended up marrying someone that would make them happy instead of the anorexic girl that was good for a roll.