Do you try to be your child's friend?

United States
March 1, 2007 3:37pm CST
Do you think that's the way to go, or do you think you should have more of an employer/employee relationship with your child?
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@mummymo (23709)
2 Mar 07
I think this is a really good question, I'm always telling my kids that I will always love and be there for them but that as their mother I am not there to make life easier for them but to love and guide them and watch them grow to be the best people that they can.
• United States
2 Mar 07
Thanks for your response. :-)
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@mummymo (23709)
7 Mar 07
Thanks for best response Angelika x
• United States
14 Mar 07
I feel you need to be your childs friend. They need to know you are there for them and enjoy having them around. They also need to know that they are special and have a special place in your heart. They need someone they can trust to turn to and share secrets with to share happy times and bad and someone they know will always be there for them in good times and bad
• United States
14 Mar 07
Thanks for your response! I guess when I think of a parent as a friend, I think of someone who lets the child dictate what happens in the relationship. So I don't want to be my son's friend. I feel he always needs to know that I am the boss. I love him, I'm here for him, he can talk to me about anything, but I am not his "friend".
@weemam (13378)
5 Mar 07
My boys are now 44 41 and 26 and yes I am their friend as well as their MUM , my second son is always telling my youngest " mam is your best friend pal but you won't realise it until you leave home" he has now applied for a home of his own so we will see xx
• United States
5 Mar 07
Awwwwww, it's great when your kids FINALLY realize how much you love them & how much they love you. That's sweet. :-)
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I don't think it should be an emplee employer relationship. I don't think there is anything wrong with being thier friend as long as you do what is in thier best interest in the end. My children know I am thier friend however, I am thier mother first.
• United States
2 Mar 07
Thanks for your respons. :-)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I am my sons best friend, But im also his mom, its not like an employer employee relationship at all. I teach and guide. Its loving.
• United States
2 Mar 07
I didn't mean to imply that it the relationship with your child wasn't loving. I couldn't think of better words to describe the kind of relationship I was thinking of.