Seriously think about it... Are You Afraid to Die?

United States
March 2, 2007 12:25am CST
So often when someone asks me this question, I'm quick to say that "no" I'm not afraid to die. I'm someone that believes in Heaven so as a Christian, how can that be a scary thing, right? But I was reading a book the other day and in the book one of the characters has cancer and I found myself sobbing in tears when I thought of being dead. Of not being here, not living - just being gone - nothing - blackness. Honestly, it scared me... bad. I don't want to die ever but I know that as a human that day is going to come at some point and that scares the everything out of me. The unknown. What's after this? What if everything I think I believe is wrong? What if there is no Heaven.. what if this is "it" and then we die? I almost can't allow myself to think about it too seriously because when I do, I kinda panic and end up crying by myself. In the book the girl with cancer wants to finally talk about death with her bestfriend and she says: "Do you ever wonder what comes after? If there really is an afterlife, or just nothing, black and endless. The idea of nothingness sounds scary, but when you think about it, it isn't so bad. If your consciousness just snuffs out, you won't know it. You won't exist. No pain, no thoughts, no dreams. Nothing. The people you leave behind have it worse." I don't want to think that once I die, that's it. What about you? Are you scared to die - yes, no, why?
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@red158 (333)
• Canada
3 Mar 07
I'm not afraid of dying, I'm afraid of leaving my children before they are able to fend for themselves. I'm afraid of dying before all my loved ones know how I feel about them. I am afraid of all my loved ones dying before me, I don't want to be left alone.
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@drakan291 (817)
• Ireland
2 Mar 07
yes iam afraid
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• United States
2 Mar 07
Honest. Thank you. You are not alone. [[hugs]]
@rainne12 (61)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
Yes, i do wonder what comes afterlife. And No, I am not afraid to die. Though no one can really tell what comes after life, but i do believe that there is heaven. But im not yet ready to leave this world. There's still so many things that I have yet to discover and so many things to learn...
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2 Mar 07
Yes I am scared to die. I have no idea what will happen after life. I assume it will be just nothing and that is scary enough on its own without the thought that there might be more and it could be a worse situation than the one we are in now.
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@SKLC_PT (1234)
2 Mar 07
Depends, yes it depends, it depends on when, how and why. I would be scared to die in an accident of some sort, drowning, car crash, any crash, burnt, suffocated... I would be scared to die after fighting with someone I love. I would be scared to die before doing things I really wanted to do or without saying things I wanted to say. But most of all I'd be scared of someone I truly love dying first! I wish I could die old and happy, wile having a nice dream in my bed after having the best day ever having eaten the food I love best. But I know we can't have all we want, just dying old in my sleep to a good dream is great if I'm OK with the ones I love.
• United States
2 Mar 07
Good answer.. and yes, I wish I could die happy, old and in my sleep - that would be so ideal. Sadly, most of us won't have that choice. Thanks for your reply.
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@silentwill (1686)
• Philippines
3 Mar 07
To some extent I am yes. I have accepted that we will all go down that road one time or another, but if say I know I'll die right now, I'm definitely not ready yet. I'm scared to leave my loved ones and I feel that there are still alot of things I can accomplish in life.
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• India
3 Mar 07
I am absolutely afraid of dying because I see many people dying with a disease where they feel lot of pain in the end ages and they die. It is really a horrible and most painful in a human's life
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• United States
3 Mar 07
No I am not afraid to die. I believe that you do not go into nothingness. I believe that when you die you go to one of two places. Heaven or hell.
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@mrddln (458)
• Philippines
3 Mar 07
No, Because it will be the time that my life is settled with the Lord.
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@ally555 (117)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I feel the way you do, what's after this life? No one really knows. I fear how I'm going to die also. It really is one of my biggest fears and also losing someone I love. I hear in books and stuff that it's really beautiful when you cross over, but I don't want to find out if it is or not. Just the thought of being in a grave and turning into nothing scares me. Who know's if what's in those books is really true, no one really know's. I really do feel the way you do about it.
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• United States
2 Mar 07
Im not scared to die. Im scared of how I will die. I want to go peacefull. I dont want to drownd, burn or be murdered. Thats what scares me not knowing how it will happen.
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• United States
23 Apr 07
I would love to say no but yes I am..I am a Christian and I believe in Heaven but I am still afraid of the unknown. My Grandma passed away and some of my Aunts that I was very close too and we would talk about the after life and they had a fear of the unknown. As I think about them now and see their pictures and watch videos of them I wonder where they are at? What happened to these people that were so much a part of my life? I can still in my mind here their voices just like they are here and it makes me feel strange to think the body is buried or that my Grandmas ashes are scattered in the desert and I cant see them moving around and laughing. I would hate to think that after I die "that't it" I just know there has to be more. Yes I am afraid to die.