Do any of you struggle with jealousy?

@lena2000 (2392)
Belgium
March 4, 2007 2:36am CST
I know that jealousy will drive a person away. There's nothing attractive about it. Yet I have jealous feelings at times. I've done well not to show it, and I realize that it's my own insecurity that brings these feelings out. Do you have any advice on how to rid myself of jealous feelings?
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@SilPhil (267)
• Australia
4 Mar 07
I get so jealous, and I don't know why. I don't know if there is much you can do to help it. I know in my heart that my hubby won't cheat, yet I do still get insanely jealous! My problem is the hubby gets along well with women, probably better than he does with men. And so he constantly has women messaging and calling at all hours of the day. I am confident in our marriage that he won't cheat, yet I do still get jealous. I think the best thing to do is to get it out in the open and discuss it. If you're jealous of your parter spending time with friends, or whatever, talking helps. I know its said a million times over, but communication really is the key. Hubby knows about my problems and insecurities, so he does his best to respect my feelings. We don't always see eye to eye, and yes it does still cause problems, but we're working on it. If there is a magic quick fix, I'd sure like to hear it!!
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
4 Mar 07
i admit. i have a very strong jealous side. sometimes, my boyfriend and i end up discussing about it. we're in a long distance relationship and there goes my insecurities. i know that i should trust my boyfriend and i trust him ofcourse. i always try very hard to take away that jealous side of mine. but it's not easy. there are still time when i open up with him about me being jealous with someone near him. and he understands and makes me feel secured of our relationship. it's difficult to give advice since i am like you, too. but atleast, try to lessen it a little all the time. widen your horizon and trust your partner more. it's better if your boyfriend/girlfriend will make you feel secured about the love you have for each other. assurance is really important.
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@simran1430 (1790)
• India
4 Mar 07
jealousy lets see there are diff types those caused by an inferiority complex when someone feels you're better than they in anyway and they just hate u for it,it can also be caused by love that if left unchecked turns to obsession and leads the person to do stupid things, but theres is also the good type envy i believe it is called which provokes one to do good things example if the person that is being envied is in a successful position and it makes the one envying him/her to work hard to achieve.
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@garyeye (202)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
The green one-eyed monster, that what we call jealousy. It sticks out its ugly head when we fill a bit left out by someone we care a lot. It feeds on our emotions and entertaining the thought that something's not right. It snaps and bite like snake, it devours relationship and left victims torn, bruised and battered. Relationships are totally scared by it for the fact that one of the parties is a bit insecure. Trust is the antidote and so is love, being understanding can also cure. Trusting God and loving Him annihilates the monster for good.