How Honest can you be with a new Mother?

I would never lie about it. However i would also not say that its the most beautiful baby. Instead i would redirect her attention to something i did find appealing. Long beautiful fingers, eyelashes, big round apple cheaks. Large eyes, long hair. There is always SOMETHING appealing about a baby, even if you dont think its the most beautiful lol. But i would never ever say you have a beautiful baby if i didnt think it was. I have several friends with children and they get compliments on their kids, but frankly everyone ive talked to thinks the baby is umm well... not so pritty lol. My cousins son for example. He is not the cutest thing at all, but he does have BIG blue eyes, and big loveable cheeks. He looks very huggable, so i always comment to her on the things i like about her baby. A friend has a little girl, and i think the baby is scarry looking, but she has very long curling black hair, and ill make mention of that, or her bright eyes ect. See where im going? That way i dont insult mom by saying i dont think baby is cute, and i dont lie or feel like im lieing. :)

All babies are beautiful, even the funny looking ones. haha. I would never tell a new mom her baby wasn't pretty. Some babies are kind of funny loking, it takes them time to grow into their looks. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Oh I would most definitely lie. I would never intentionally hurt someone that isn't necessary. Every mother thinks their baby is beautiful. It would break my heart if someone said mine isn't. Our love for our child is so strong that all we see is beautiful. I would never be honest on this one.

I encounter that question mostly with my friends who are new moms and for me there is no baby that is pretty or less pretty for it was a gift from above and for me having that as blessing is a good thing that's why I can say it's beautiful. It was indeed beautiful for it was a blessing source of joy and happiness and I think physical attributes doesn't count to that.

Well as far as I'm concerned most babies are beautiful...and if I didn't think so, I'd still tell someone their child was. Try turning things around...what if it was your baby. Would you want someone to tell you that your child or baby was ugly? I don't think any mother would want someone to tell them that so I wouldn't tell someone either. Just my thoughts...

I lie to the person cause I know it would hurt my feelings if someone said my child was ugly, but I wouldn't lie so much as to make them think that their baby could win the cutest baby award either. Just be casual about it. yeah she/he is cute. then ask them a question about the baby such as how did you come up with the name, that way you don't linger to long on the cute subject or feel obligated to say anything more. if you don't whether the baby is boy or girl don't be afraid to ask. mom's appreciate that more than mistaking their girl for a boy.

All babies are beautiful especially to a new mum who has waited so long for her precious little bundle to arrive and i have to admit that even though i had some very beautiful babies myself one of them as i look back on him wasn`t so beautiful he was georgous god had marked him special so no one would ever forget who he was . HE was born with a great birth mark over his face and as he grew this mark faded i can still see the marks on his face to this day but to everyone else they are invisable .God makes them all different some look like little monkeys and some like little old men but they are all beautiful indeed

I don't think any baby or child is ugly. I have never felt that way about any child and could never feel that way. If a mother was to say "Isn't beautiful?" I would tell her "Of course she is!" Sometimes it's just best to not speak of your true feelings if it's going to hurt someones feelings. Especially in a case like this. And if someone even had the courage to tell a mother that their child is ugly, well then that person is really heartless. People need to remember that nobody is perfect we all have flaws, but we don't have to point them out if it's going to hurt someone. Why hurt someone in this matter? But anyway, I still can't see how a baby/child can be ugly. Everyone is different and special in their own way. Oh rude to call a child ugly.

I would lie. It is definitely a white lie, and there is no harm in telling someone their baby is beautiful even if you don't think it is. If you tell them it's not they're most likely going to think you're a mean person and be angry with you. I think you should just tell them the baby is beautiful. After all, they just gave birth to this wonderful child they've been waiting for; you don't want to say anything to hurt them.

well i have never seen a baby i didnt think was cute. lucky me lol! my cousin in law had her baby about a month ago, and he came out with these big ol' chimpmunk cheeks lol!! they were so adoriable! i told her that my baby came out all skinny and Donnie looking lol! donnie is his father and he is really skinny, so i was basically making fun at my husband lol!! yes i think if that would happen to me i would look at the features on the baby, like the eyes, or something, or say he/she looks just like so and so.

Well I think my words to her would be . Well you know when my daughter was born we thought she was so beautiful but now when we look at pictures 7 years later she looked something like ET LOL and it is true we all think our babies are beautiful but at times when you go back and look at pictures it does catch your eye but I will tell you our little ET turned out Beautiful.

every ones baby is the most beautiful to the mother. it is not a lie to say it is beautiful, all babies are beautiful. beauty is in the eye of the beholder so just because you think it doesn't match yur idea of beauty does nt make it not beautiful. do yu have children? if you do did everyone say yours was beautiful, i'm sure they did and it would be the truth. all babies are, just by virtue of being babies - even if it is honorary beauty.

Oh my winterrose, there is no way on god's green earth I would tell a new mom that her baby is ugly. Babies are born without teeth, or hair (some of them) they cant walk or talk, or even hold their heads up. To tell a new mom anything other than "oh how precious" or "she is a doll" would be just heartbreaking to a new mom. Sometimes you just have to bite your tongue.

There's an old saying - I think it's a Chinese proverb - that says, "There is only one beautiful child in the world, and every mother has it." Whether you're brutally honest or not, you're not going to convince her that her baby is anything other than gorgeous, and if you imply otherwise, it'll only make her angry with you. And as a mother myself, my knee-jerk reaction back then would probably have been to assume that the person was jealous of my beautiful baby. ;) Fortunately, there is always something beautiful about a brand new life, so it's easy to find something complimentary to say about the new little bundle. As others have mentioned, you can nearly always find some characteristic to admire - beautiful eyes, fuzzy hair, round cheeks, etc. You don't necessarily have to lie to come up with something nice to say.

hmm...that is one tough question...well, just like most of the answers here, i definitely would not want her to know the truth coz as a mom also, if i would be in her shoes, i would be hurt if someone would say that my baby is ugly...and if it is only a newborn, i think newborns dont get their full physical appearance until they grow up gradually so, it is just fair for her...

I've never really had this problem, because to me all babies are beautiful, because they are unique in their own way. I have a hard time with "the most beautiful" because every mother thinks that way, so I simply answer "S/he is a beautiful baby" or something like that.

I've always said "Oh, how cute!". But then I've always thought that babies are cute , not necessarily beautiful but definitely cute.:)

Well,I would like to agree with the baby's mom ,since a child is really a great treasure for the person who has given birth . So ,obviously mom will feel that the baby is cute and most beautifull ,so I will rather agree with her and would not hurt her feelings . That would be the most convincing things that I can do to myself in a kinda situation like this .

Actually, I have experienced that.. I mean when i gave birth to my son 3 years ago.. When the wife of my uncle came to visit and when she saw my son, she commented" oh, he looks like a monkey" honestly, and deep inside when i heard that i was really deeply hurt..but she was right, the structure of my son was really of like a monkey, but i ponder on that and remember my lesson during highschool about our ancestors in my science subject and perhaps realized that maybe the reason.. And now when i look at my son, he is very handsome.. My uncle's wife was just being honest of what she said, and though i was hurt I openly accepted her comment.. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. Not because the person had tell the truth we will hate them...we just be open minded..And what the baby will look when it is new born will change as it grows up..

First thing, ALL children are beautiful. And beauty is not ALWAYS skin deep. All babies are beautiful because they have the gift of innocence which shines in eyes of trust. If you don't think the woman's child is beautiful, keep your opinion to yourself. Find something of the child that you can admire and comment on that in a positive way. For instance, if he/she is a strong kicker, you can smile and say: "Wow, little one! You're headed for the NHL one day!" Don't always focus on a child's looks. That's not all there is to a baby. Children have personalities from the very start. Some giggle, others cry, some kick, some are still as a mouse. Be observant and make a positive statement about something that pleases you about the child. If nothing pleases you about a little baby, say nothing, and look into counseling ... because then the problem lies WITHIN. It's not the child that is not appealing, it's the critic!