What are your struggles being a single mom? or a single dad

@catcai (1057)
Philippines
March 4, 2007 8:57am CST
to all single parents out there, im just looking for a headstart since in an expecting mom, single mom that is... im just wondering what were your struggles when you were pregnant and single? or when you became a single dad? and when you were/are raising your son/daughter alone? thanks in advance
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@anij34 (317)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Don't cheat the system but don't be too prideful to get help if your not making the bills. But NEVER sell your soul to get help. Get involved with a church if you feel comfortable with that. A church family is an endless resource of friends and support. Everyone will offer you parental advice but only use what works for you and don't feel compelled to use someone's advice because you love that person giving the advice. Being a parent will teach you more patience and joy than you have ever known, the feeling can be overwhelming at times. Its normal to just look at your baby and just cry out of pure love. If you choose to date again, work very hard to keep your child out of it. Your baby doesn't need to meet every man that you date. When you find the keeper, you'll know. It won't be "fire works" or "butterfly's in the stomach", it will be a peace you have never known before. A simple contentment with just being with that person, then the butterfly's come when you realize your in love. (The peace and contentment come before any butterfly's or fire works.) Enjoy being a mother and seek out a good role model (your own mom?) to ask questions to.
@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
Thank you so much for this wonderful advice,currentyl right now im attending a recovery program in our church- this is for me to deal with all the resentment and anger that i have regarding this current situation im having. SO far, its helping me one day at a time. Thank for you for the dating advice as well.. as of now i really can't imagine myself "dating" i could only think of how i would be able to find a stable well earning job to take care of my family, i still do kind of long for someone- and right now all i have in mind is the father of this child im having- i still pray that there's still a hope for us to make this family whole, i know it might not be possible, im leaving it all to God- his will be done. =)
@mummymo (23707)
4 Mar 07
Hey catcai, when my son was a baby I ended up being a single mum for about 4 years after a marriage break up! Think the most important things are that you need to be organised and try to have the support of your friend and/or family around you! It can be hardgoing and seem like a never ending struggle but it does get easier and a little smile from your precious baby can be enough to make you realise that any struggle is more than worth it! I wish you every luck - let us know how things are going! x
@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
hi mummy, thanks for your reply, i do hope that things will turn out for the better- i have so many mixed feelings now- like i want her to be born so i can see her already but at the same time i dont because of the financial issues that are as of the moment, still unresolved... i do hope i can get by though- i will indeed keep u posted! take care!
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@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
It's really hard to be a single mom. In my experience, since i was pregnant, my boyfriend leave me and it's a very painful and a very sad moment of my life. Being a mother of a 2yrs. old daughter is not that easy. But fortunately, i have my family with me who'se always there in my sadness and happy times..Now, i'm not that afraid that i can't raise my daughter alone, because i have my family..
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• Philippines
4 Mar 07
I am already a parent but i have a partner in rearing my children, that is my loving husband. I know being a single mom is so very difficult. I even felt it even if i have somebody to lean on, how much more if you are just alone in rearing your child, it very hard but for sure very fulfilling.
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