This wife went on strike this morning!
By CRiley27
@CRiley27 (983)
United States
March 5, 2007 6:29am CST
Now,I love my husband dearly, he works 2 jobs, I have been staying at home. Yesterday was a very busy day. (Too long to go into detail, but very busy) Anyhow, when I left the house with both kids to take my daughter to a party, there was laundry on my bed. My husband still had 2 hours before he had to leave for work. Earlier that morning, I was telling my husband I need some house help from him on the weekends. (This pregnancy has sucked the life out of me) Well,I come home, to find the laundry still on the bed. When he got home,I joked with him saying what a nice suprise it was to have found he put the laundry away. So, we get up this morning, and I am about to make lunch for my daughter and my husbabd,which I do everyday. I stated I was almost out of bread already (I only bought it 2 days ago) He chirped up that I should buy more then. Now I know I took it the wrong way, but it bothered me. I have been food shopping for years, I didn't need to be told. Well, I carried on making my daughters sandwich, and left everything out on the counter. When hubby noticed,he asked if I was mad at him. I just blew it off. He was actually bothered I didn't make him lunch! I could tell the way he was carrying himself. I don'tdo things for my husband because I have to, I do it because I want to and enjoy taking care of him and my family. Somedays I feel forgotten, and not valued. I should just prepare myself for a bad day,and go at a slow pace. Have you ever felt this way, and gone on strike? (Now, to spite, I would make him do take out for dinner, but I planned to make manicotti, which is delish, so I will make him go get some ice cream after. LOL
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@recycledgoth (9894)
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5 Mar 07
Tell youself that it's ok to feel like this sometimes, after all we all do on occasions. While I love my partner loads, there are days when he really winds me up to breaking point. Right now I should be cleaning the kitchen, he cooked dinner last night and although dinner was great, the kitchen looks like a bombsite and every pan and dish in the house is dirty and left on the worktop. Sometimes you feel invisible, like they just don't care, I'm sure it's not true hun. Take the day at your own pace hun, try not to let it bug you
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@CRiley27 (983)
• United States
5 Mar 07
Oh,I can relate. Sometimes my husband will offer to cook, I freak. He can cook,but it's me who gets stuck cleaning up, and he is not a neat cook. :) I think about it, and how dare I complain. He is a great husband. I get a back rub every night, I made him go to the store at 1 morning today. (Our son was up with a belly ache) Oh,nevermind, I am going to run with my mood. LOL
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@LindaLou (483)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
I think every once in a while the men need a good reminder about how much their wives do and realize that they do tend to take them for granted. There's nothing wrong with a mini-strike once in awhile to make him realize that those dishes don't do themselves, the laundry doesn't fold and put itself away, nor does the lunch make itself. The thing is, men aren't mind readers either and I think women tend to hold things in sometimes and not tell our husbands when we are bothered or upset. For instance, instead of joking with him about the laundry, which probably made him think you didn't really mind, it might have been more effective to actually tell him that you were upset that he hadn't done it before you got home, because you've already told him that you need more help wiht the housework. Especially since you have 2 kids and another on the way. Men aren't too sharp when it comes to things like that and subtlety rarely works on them. I've learned that I've got to tell my husband directly what I want him to do, not stew about it and hope that he'll read my mind and just KNOW what's bothering me.
Anyway, I hope you enjoy that icecream!
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@CRiley27 (983)
• United States
5 Mar 07
I agree with you. Now when I told my husband I needed some house help, he asked what to do. I was just like "Hon, you know what needs to be done in the house, if you see the bathroommirror dirty, wipe it down" He responds, "Well, I only look in the mirror to shave" I wanted to scream. Well, I gave him one "chore" now every Sunday he has to clean the rabbit cage. It is our daughter's rabbit, but she is still too young to do the whole thing, and the cage weighs a ton. I am pregnant, so I have passed the buck on. Now,let's see if he does it. :)
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
6 Mar 07
Good for you!! If he is not appreciating you the way he should, you are entitled to go on strike. Good for you for standing up.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
5 Mar 07
I did, one time years back when I was married. I was working 2nd shift which ment I got home after everyone had gone to bed. I always left dinner ready to go in oven or in the slow cooker before I left for work. I did laundry, cleaned house, and whatever else needed to be done with 5 people in the house. One night I came home and had enough My husband's dirty dishes, socks and newspaper spread all over the living room, older boys had done the dinner dishes but their dirty snack things were all over the kitchen, bathroom floor was covered with dirty cloths (all 3 plus some dirty diapers from my daughter) and wet towels.
I went on strick. Next day before I left for work I left a note saying I was not doing anything else around the house until everyone else started picking up after themselves. I also added that when I got my next pay check if things hadn't changed I was taking my check and going to get an apartment of my own.
That night I came home the house was spotless and they had even left a dinner plate in the fridge for me to warm up for myself - note one the plate said "Mom please don't leave". Found out later the boys 14 & 12 at time had done everything - including picking up my husband's things (their step-father). I felt bad for the boys but it was nice to come home to a clean house.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Yes, they are pretty good - bad thing is their on the other side of the country now :( One in California and the other in Colorado. I'm not dealing well with it, I miss them both horribly (plus 3 grandkids that went when the oldest moved).
