have u directly or indirectly changed your spouse/ partner ...

@Fishish (698)
India
March 5, 2007 11:20am CST
...when you start staying wiht a person u tend to change a little, at least my experience says so. even though u dont want the person to change adn love them for who they are but changes happen on their own. i have changed since marriage and it was my parents who noticed the change. also the change in my husband was noticed by all but him. have u too changed yourself or the other? i think hter emus tbe something....
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
5 Mar 07
I have set out to change some things in my partner. I have wanted him to dress up for a few occations. I have also tried to make him change the way he is during meal time. i feel it is necessary to dress up from time to time in respect of the people hosting an event. i also feel it is necessary to be polite an talk to people duringa meall, and sit at the table while everyone finishes eating. Other than that I have not tried to change him. But we have both adapted to eachother. I think that is necessary in a relationship. I do not think it would be a relationship if the two involved did not make any adjustments to fit into eachothers life. Without change it would just be two people sharing a house, not their lives.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
5 Mar 07
Oh yes I have changed since I married but I do not think that my husband has changed that much, I believe that I have changed for the better since my marriage and have learnt a lot from my husband so my change was for the better.
• India
5 Mar 07
yes marriage does change. ihave made some xhanges in myself adn some in my wife. but it is such a slow process that u hardly notice it. it takes little effort as well. my wife has changed since we married and most of it has been silent adn effortless on my side...