How to deal with a stupid boss???

Canada
March 5, 2007 8:28pm CST
Hi, I have been working at my present job for quite a while now and really, I have to say, it's just the worst job I have never had. At the beginning, it was ok... but now, things are getting worst and I am feeling depress and very upset about my boss. I could just kick her big fat but. I did work several weeks ago with a specific software. It's kind of hard for me to explain because I am French, but I will say quickly that the software wasn't working right. Lets just say that, after I did all I have to do, all the work with the software, the boss decide that we had to change of software (the software wasn't working right since the beginning and the boss new about it). Unfortunately, I had to do all the work all over again with the new software. The boss didn't apologize for the work I had done for nothing. I got pay, but the work was been done for like nothing at all. And now, I just hate my job. I have to redo everything. I am getting pay, but still. I talk to the boss about this and what I was told is that if I wanted to quite, I had to write a letter. I don't want to write a letter because if I decide to do so, I am scare I am will not be able to get any unemployment benefit because I decide to leave, it's not the employer who lay off me. I am in a difficult situation the boss doesn't respect me at all and I want to be lay off. How can I get lay off without doing anything chitty? I just want to receive unemployment benefit for a time and begin my search for a new job.
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@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
6 Mar 07
Hi JulieSkyRock, I do feel sorry for you, you are indeed having a difficult time with your boss. Since, u mentioned that u need the job. Just endure, but keep looking for other new opportunity. Have you head of the term "Look Out Of The Box" Well why don't you do just that, you might find some solution to your problem. (Up-grading or a new avenue) Cheers, do not ponder to much on his comment.
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• Indonesia
6 Mar 07
yeah you'r right man... i think u have a good vision about life. and for JulieSkyRock : nobody's know about his destiny..it's a big world!! u can do a lot in this life..it's much u can take.. just, don't only see with your own eyes.. be patient,n don't give up ok !!
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• Philippines
6 Mar 07
in any job, you'll always find at least one person who will make your life hellish. If yo uthink you can't take it anymore, look for another job before quitting. Don't let her have the last laugh. lol
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• Philippines
6 Mar 07
Hello. This is one of the most stressful things in life. Imagine how many hours of the day you have to put in your work...that's more than 1/3 and then you have to deal with a difficult boss. I know it may sound easy for me to say... but when you're unhappy about something and it really starts to bother you, it's time to bail yourself out. You will find another job.
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@jazzy101 (75)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
well thtas easy all you have to do is to keep cool and avoid being nasty to your temper..
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@shalwani (760)
• Pakistan
6 Mar 07
If you've been in the workforce for any length of time at all, then you have almost certainly learned a hard lesson: The fact that someone has been promoted to the position of supervisor does NOT, in-and-of-itself, mean that they are particularly smart, hard working, competent, caring, insightful, courteous, decent, enlightened, or deserving. In reality, they could possibly be in that supervisory position for factors that have absolutely NOTHING to do with any of the above! They may now be your boss and have authority over you because they are expert manipulators, or simply because they can "kiss up" better than you or any of your co-workers. The sad truth is, they may also be a living embodiment of the "Peter Principle" ... that is, they have been promoted to their level of incompetence. And in a worst case scenario, they may actually believe they are the boss because they are somehow "superior", when in fact they are by any definition completely dysfunctional!! So what are you supposed to do? When your boss is a bumbling fool who does not even realize that they cannot do their own job properly without the constant support of everyone they are supposedly managing, then you are in an aggravating (and often frustrating) situation. However if they treat you decently, maybe you can live with it. But when in addition to being incompetent they also treat you and your fellow co-workers with disdain and a total lack of respect, then you have a very serious problem that will make your life miserable for as long as you work at that company. If you find yourself in that truly horrible position, then maybe it is time to do something about it! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The first thing to realize is that you are not alone. The second thing to realize is in regards to your physical and mental health -- if your body, mind and spirit are being negatively impacted by this creep, then it is no joke and you should not ignore the possible long-term damage it can do to you. You could literally die from the ongoing daily stress. Fortunately, there are professionals who specialize in counselling working people about this kind of terrible situation. Below you will find some websites that may be useful, but in addition, it may be helpful to look in your local area for trained job counselors. Plus there are legal steps you can take to protect yourself, so if going to work and facing a psychopath is something you must do every day, then it may be time to take ACTION before it is too late!
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@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
6 Mar 07
Why not begin your new job search first, before contemplating the thoughts of who to fire who. This way, you may get your unemployment benefit, but you will definitely get your new job. So in the end, would you really care about the benefit.
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@onabreak2 (1162)
• United States
6 Mar 07
My last boss was dumber then dirt and I could no longer stand working for her so I quit and so did almost everyone else. But since you are in a position of getting paid for the new software then why not go ahead and work on it and at the same time scout around for a more pleasant job. One more to your liking. Good luck and i know how miserable it is to work for someone ho you have no respect for and who also is an idiot.
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@SageMother (2277)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I suggest you quietly look for another position and just do the minimum required at your present job. The boss is being smart in saying you have to write a letter to make sure you have no unemployment claims. It is hard to work for someone who is so disrespectful. If it is a larger company you could put in for a transfer and have a different supervisor and that might solve alot of the issues, but it doesn't sound like that is an option. Try to stay away from the boss and have as few words about the work as possible.
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• Philippines
7 Mar 07
There is no perfect job in the world that's why you have to learn how to accept negative feedback...If you know your good then keep it up, focus on your work and wait for them to realize that, maybe they have a lot of things in mind so try to understand..Give your best shot, do something new and show them that you're an asset to the company and have faith in your work soon they will reward you for it..It may not be now since your just new but maybe it will soon...Good luck in your career..I know you can make it on top... :)
• Canada
7 Mar 07
Hi Julie! I know how you feel, nothing more miserable than hating what you do. Well I can give you an advice; start looking for something else right now, and when you find it then fire that stupid boss. If you want you can check my web site, it might be a good solution for you www.busydady.fourpointconsultants.com you will find it very interesting, thats how allot of people fire their boss.
@janle6 (17)
• United States
7 Mar 07
It doesn't seem like getting laid off would be an thing to accomplish. Most places lay off because they can't afford all the workers. The other way is getting fired and that's a no brainer...it's easy to get fired. The way I see it, there are two things you can do. 1. Stay at your job, suck it up and deal with it. You can try to get on her good side by sucking up to her. Whenever she needs a huge favor, or any favor at all, DO IT! Someday, you can remind her of all the things you've done for her and maybe she'll appreciate you more. 2. Just leave!! No point in staying around if you're not happy. Does this job pay you a crazy amount of money or something? Is there something that is offered that you simply can not get anywhere else? Find another job and leave her fat butt. Believe me, she'll probably be sad to see you go. =)
@liranlgo (5742)
• Israel
6 Mar 07
oh it is a difficult situation but i would advice you to go and talk to your boss and tell him that you want him to fire you, tell him that you don't feel right with this job and that you do not want things to become unbarable to you and to him usually when the boss hears that kind of a thing he will write that letter now if he does not do that there is no other option then to start working slowly be late all the time and to do things that will not hurt the job or your friends that work with you. there is no other choice. and by the way you can start looking for a new job right now. you do not have to wait for him to fire you. so by the time that you will be finished with this job you'll go straight away to the other new job. good luck:)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 07
its so easy just try to stay away from him ... and always say "yeah yeah" when he try to comment on something .. or you can directly stab him with a knife
• United States
6 Mar 07
if you've ever worked in retail, then im sure you have worked with at least one boss who you find to be the most annoying or incompetent person in the world. this is because a lot of times people in retail are promoted based on who you know instead of what you know, or who you like and don't like. try, for instance, two companies i worked for. i won't say their names, but let's just say it was a certain "blue and yellow" consumer electronics big-box store with a large tag. that company is one of the biggest stews of brown-nosers and politicking i've ever known. and then there's a "green and black" coffee company that just promotes based on stupidity and lack of people skills, IMO. remember, these aren't generalizations, just my experiences with those companies. im sure those companies have great workers and managers (i know, i've been lucky to work with some of them)
@aksingh (20)
• India
6 Mar 07
I feel like kicking your boss. But I suggest to bear with the boss till you can get a new job . I know its hard but thats the tough time you need to survive .If your luck favours might be your boss leaves the job or gets transferred. I would suggets you to always give a smile and say a good morning to your boss. I know its very difficult but this is the only one can get the appericiation of a fool . Hope this makes laugh and gives you the support you are looking for - Albert Einstien once said "I think there are two things whch are infinite . Its Universe and human stupidity .First one I am not sure but I am sure of the later ".
@lucalucky (1840)
• Italy
6 Mar 07
First of all let me say that is good that you received your money. It is a first step. Then I suggest to look around for a new job, a different position. Working is not the best thing but working with a bad boss ir really negative. Look around, I am sure that something new and better will arrive soon.
@balbirs1 (83)
• India
6 Mar 07
hi, just relax, do take time for meditation and pray to almighty to take care of such bosses, and have faith in god, everything will be right.
@Jellen (1852)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Honesty counts. Respect the authority of the boss and make him look good. The job you have will take on a whole new light.
• India
6 Mar 07
yes, tackle with the rude boss is very difficult. they just need the the moment to insult the employee. they never evr think about them and we have to take any action about the boss. so, it does not happen to any othe remployee like us.
@fox182 (28)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
working with a difficult boss sucks i know but u got to stay cool..let his boss know if he is doing anything wrong..give out a comment..hey that's ok hang in there