How do you know when you are getting "The Fat Look" from others?
March 7, 2007 7:33am CST
We've all seen it. Anyone who suffers from a little extra poundage knows the look. I call it "The Fat Look." It goes something like this: You're at a pot luck and you are so excited because of all the good food loving hands have prepared, and then, you look up into the face of someone who is frowning at you with that "Are you allowed to eat that dear?" They might even follow it up with a loud public response "How's your diet going dear?" Only thin people are supposed to eat in public. Let's get that out in the open right now. Fat people are to be scoffed at with that shaking head that says Tsk Tsk for everyone else to join in. My own grandmother used to do that to me whenever I walked across the floor. She would say "Tsk Tsk, what a shame," just loud enough that I could hear her. I can't tell you how many times I cried myself to sleep or hid in a closet with a box of cookies to dull the pain of someone not loving me just because I was heavier than they were. I'll tell you this. I'd rather be a fat nice person than a person who is mean to a fat person. Either way we both have something we need to work on. It's easier to not eat a slice of pie than it is to change one's mean-spirited personality. (at least I think it is). One more thing, I believe that by enduring the "Fat looks" all of my life, I have learned to treat people a little nicer. It would never dawn on me to be mean to someone else or make a public display of someone else's shorcomings.