Avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits...
March 8, 2007 2:13am CST
I have this quote on my wall. For me it means avoiding: things that are at odd with my values (sources), people that are judgemental and critical of me (people), places I will be forced to deal with said people or places with negative memories (places), things that are unnecessary or detrimental to my happiness and things that "hide" who I am (things), and procrastination, anger, jealousy (habits). How does this quote make you feel? What are some of the things you avoid or know you should avoid?
• United States
8 Mar 07
The quote makes my head go up and down as I agree yes, yes, yes! When I first started counseling years ago, I needed to stop seeing certain people who were critical and judgemental of me and who ONLY gave off negative energy, that was my grandmother. When I sat down and really started thinking about it, I realized that I only ever saw her because I thought that I had to. She wasn't nice to me, she didn't really like me, she couldn't stand my husband and my daughter had too much energy for her. So then I started thinking about the past with her, did I have any good memories of her whatsoever. The answer was no, I had no good memories of her whatsoever but I did have plenty where she scared the heck out of me when I was a kid, when she tried to use me to get to my aunt, and when she said things that were so unkind it just about made my heart stop. I was a very sensitive child who tried to hide that fact. Once I put all the evidence together, snap, granny was gone out of my life. I would see her ocassionally at the holidays with the rest of the family but I no longer made the fake effort to be someone that I was not. Like the quote says "no more being forced to deal with people with negative memories that are unnecessary or detrimental to my happiness." And that doesn't even cover how absolutely mean grandma was, spooky stuff! That's a great quote. I really enjoyed it.
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• United States
8 Mar 07
I'm glad you enjoyed it. I too had to go through counseling to realize some things. I can't say I've been able to eliminate all of them yet but I keep the quote on my wall as a daily reminder to keep trying. I'm so sorry your grandmother was like that but glad she's out of your life now. I just don't understand people like that.