The hardest,unthinkable, death of a child

@Anniedup (3652)
Richards Bay, South Africa
March 8, 2007 8:25pm CST
My next door neighbor's son committed suicide last year, he hung himself, now the anniversary is approaching and My God I feel so sorry for her, I can see as the date gets nearer she is starting to withdraw from everybody and everything. O My God I think it must be the hardest thing in this world that can happen to you, we are suppose to go first!!!
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• Philippines
9 Mar 07
Yes it is very difficult and hard to forget that situation.
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@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
9 Mar 07
Yes my friend,very difficult thx for responding xx
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@dawgmart (74)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
you said it perfectly, the worst thing that can happen to a parent is to have one of their children go before them. i could never stand the the idea that my son would go before me. it is something i could never live with.
@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
9 Mar 07
You know yesterday I was so morbid and I felt like posting how I felt, now commenting on every body it kind of make my skin crawl, sometimes things are so painful we don't want to be reminded of it. Thx for sharing the unthinkable xx
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• United States
9 Mar 07
I can not fathom, the loss of one of my sons. I don't know the kind of strength, that parents who lose children have. I can not wrap my mind around it. Give your friend your support but also allow her space as I know she needs to grieve.
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@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
9 Mar 07
Thank you for using the word fathom, because I don't know what I will do, yes she has got to grieve and I think the first year's commemoration is the hardest, they say time heals but oh God to go through this must be horrible Thank you for your response on such a grim topic
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@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
9 Mar 07
We like to think that we are supposed to go first, but the truth is that God is in control of when we go, no matter how we end up doing it. Maybe you can help your neighbor by asking her to spend some time with you. Maybe you can go for a bike ride together, or see a movie, or just take a walk. You don't need to talk about her boy unless she brings it up, but sometimes it really helps just to be with somebody. I am glad you are paying attention to her. Sometimes people just back off and let a person like that alone. That is okay if she asks you to, but at least give her a chance to respond to you. If you don't think she would go somewhere with you, maybe you can ask for her help -- moving a lawn swing in your yard, or helping you decide what kind of flowers to plant in your front yard, etc. Good luck. You sound as though you would make a great friend for her.
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