17 yo daughter not home yet.Don't you hate that?

@raydene (9874)
United States
March 9, 2007 10:47pm CST
I am so upset with my 17 yo daughter.Her curfew on weekends is 11 and it is 11:30 and she's not home so I've been calling her cell and then all of her friends. She just walked in the house. She had lost track of time at the skating rink! She is a high honors student,does her chores,is a caring loving girl but she is always late ! We have grounded her,taken her cell away,taken the car away,not given her her allowance but to no avail! She is often a few minutes late. It annoys me to no end because I worry about and I tell her and she says she is sorry but then it happens again.At least once a week she is late! She is never doing anything wrong when she's late but she is late. Maybe I should be happy that she gets good grades,doesn't get in trouble,does chores,is thoughtful and forget about the late thing but it sooooooo bugs me. What would you do ? Do you have a proble with your teen? Raydene
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@mummymo (23707)
10 Mar 07
Hey honey - know where you're coming from cos when my 13yo son is 5 mins late i start to worry , half an hour and i'm a basket case! You are lucky that she is a really goo kid and not into anything shady but I still think you have a right to be upset. Know you probably have but have you had a quiet word with her explaining how much you worry, not that you don't trust her but that anything could happen - espescially when she doesn't answer her mobile (cell)? Bit out of my experience age range but hope you can sort it out together!
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
10 Mar 07
Hi Mummymo, She is adhd and she just can not get it.Her peditrition says it is a common adhd thing. I have had talks when I'm not upset with her(I do not like to talk to her when I'm upset)She tells me she feels bad that I was worried and that she will try to be on time. Like last night she was a 5 minute walk down the street at the skating rink.She said she looked at her phone for the time at 10:45 and thought she would skate 5 more minutes and started skating when someone threw a snowball and they all started throwing them and having fun.Then she went back to the building where her phone was and realized I had been calling and that she was late.She called me and started walking up the road.This is typical of what happens with her. She is really pretty and a young girl and I worry about ......well you know what I worry about cause you are a mom. We gave her a car but lots of times she still walks. I know it could be worst and alot people think a 17 year old shouldn't have a curfew but sorry mine does. Thanks for responding. Raydene
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@mummymo (23707)
11 Mar 07
Think we were so alike when it comes to our kids - I try not to talk about things with mine when I am angry or upset - too easy to yell things you really don't mean and that would just make everything worse! Yeah I know what you worry about - have you taught her some self-defence moves and techniques that MIGHT help you worry a little less!?! anyway I thinl your daughter probably likes having a curfew - at least she know you love her! xx
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Self defence? HA she carries 50 lb grain bags and handles 1000 to 1500 lb horses on their worse days. She had a boy friend last year and she broke up with him because she didn't like his non-motavation type lifestyle.he came up to her one day saying she was comming back with him and grabbed her arm and wouldn't let go.When she tried to pull away he held on tighter and shook her a little...Well my sweet little darling decked him.....Gave him a black eye.He now knows she won't go back with him. I don't condone violence but I do think she acted within her rights. But I still worry,ya know it's that mom thing. Raydene
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
11 Mar 07
My Kids both Daughter and Son have always let me know if they will be late. Now that I live away and I know they are going out they know I worry and they always give me one ring lol so I know they are safe
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
11 Mar 07
You've got good kids. Thanks R
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
10 Mar 07
Is she late for school? Whats she gonna do in college? Does she work? Ah, teenage girls... Perhaps you can give me some advice on my daughter lol she is 13 and got such an attitude...does this go away? lol
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
11 Mar 07
AHHH the 13 year old girl! Sheilana was the child of the devil at that time! Moody oh so moody and a real snip. Yes it does go away. She still has her days mostly pms times that she can be emotional but most of the time she is easy to get along with. She is late for school once in a while but the late thing is usually when she has alot of free time. School days are structured timewise so she does pretty good on those days. Good luck with the 13yo demon! LOL Just keep the valium close ...Just kidding it won't be that bad. Raydene
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• United States
10 Mar 07
I am sure that it is upsetting that she was late, but I do think that you should be glad that she is a good kid. She really should learn to call you if she is going to be late and maybe if she did that you would not be so upset. So maybe if you explained to her that if she were to call when she is going to be a little late and that you will not get upset at her as long as it does not happen every night maybe then you both would not be so upset.
@raydene (9874)
• United States
10 Mar 07
Thanks for your post. Raydene
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• United States
10 Mar 07
i think youre right...you should be happy you have a good kid.I know when i was that age i didnt even have a curfew.Too many kids get away with too many things.I actually NEVER had a curfew except maybe when i was 12 and i went to the mall with my friends.I wish i had more strict parents when i was younger because boy did i make a mess of my life.i think you have nothing to worry about.She was onoly a half hour late and like you said she doesnt do anything wrong.Now if she was out partying and didnt come home till 2 in the morning then you have problems!!!Youre really lucky to have a good kid cuz kids now days are way over thier age.
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
10 Mar 07
Thanks for posting.Yes I'm lucky she is a good girl and alot of fun to hang around with.You should see her jump her horse.Yes I'm lucky. Thanks for reminding me. Raydene
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