am I the only one looking for a gentleman?

@maribea (2366)
Italy
March 11, 2007 9:04am CST
I still haven't found the right man but there is one thing that I've got very clear...the man I need and I could ever fall in love again should be a gentleman...one of those special men that are kind and gentle, that can court me and make me feel at my ease...a man with a good cultural level and good manners...I hate vulgarity and love courtesy, intelligence and sensibility. and what about you? do you women like gentlemen? and what about you men? are you gentlemen with women? do you think it important?
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Oh dear yes - I am "looking" for such a man but more and more I wonder if such a man does exist - the saying "all the good ones are taken" is really really true when you get into my age bracket. Some say I'm just being too picky but I like to think I am just being particular, I've been down that road too many times, being with the wrong man, don't want to do it again.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
11 Mar 07
i am so hurt inside now that I am not looking for anybody...I am alone and I am trying to feeling better...but if I ever have to fall in love again I hope I will find a gentleman...all good are either taken or are gays or are priest!!! this is what my friends and I are used to saying when complaining about men!!! but I think it is better not start a relationship that starting one that we are sure to find painful...better not choose the wrong man if possible
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@socorban (651)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Just make sure that lonlyness doesnt leed to you falling for any sweet talking guy out there. All to many guys play the nice guy part in front of you but behind your back are scheming on your friends or siblings for that matter. The majority of guys in my eyes are dispicable creatures and i am ashamed of what we do, not saying girls now adays are innocent, ive seen my fair share of scandalis women to. Be happy with yourself first, that will reflect positivly to others.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
16 Mar 07
thank you very much for your comment...you're right...there was a time in which I was so moved by gentleness that I trusted each guy being gentle with me, even if he didn't do anything special...now I know that I can hardly trust anybody else...because there are so many people ready to deceive you and I seem to have find many...many women can be bad with men, too...it is not a matter of gender...it depends on the inner sould of each human being...so you are right..I am trying to stay safe and well with myself...and I am not looking for another person..I am only saying that I wish I could find a man like this if I ever fell in love again...
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@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
17 Mar 07
hey!! tell me wud u believe me here if i say i m a gentleman... i dont think u wud..but anyways until and unless u get to know a guy..u spend time with him u cant judge him..being gentle is not an inborn feature....
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
17 Mar 07
i have no reasons to say that you are a cheater so if you say that you are a gentleman I assume you are and say...I am happy for you!!!
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@gbaben (509)
• Russian Federation
17 Mar 07
Is it a very good attribute that you need to look out for in a man.But i will like to say that it some woman that cause a lot of man to loose there gentleness.So if you see a gentle don't missuse the oppurtunity that god gives you.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
17 Mar 07
i do agree with you...some women are not gentle anymore and seem not to appreciate courtesy ...but I am one of those old fashioned ones who think this is the most important thing and be sure I am not missing the opportunity if I ever meet a gentleman
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@ZenDove (698)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Years ago, I experienced a terrible relationship with a boorish man who was charming but had no sense of respect or moral fiber. I promised myself, never again. The next guy I dated was a doctor, he was kind, compassionate, well-traveled and socially charming. He was also spineless. I did not feel protected when I was with him or that he was a figure of authority. I realized that what I sought was a balance between the "brute" and the "baron". I must have an intelligent man, yet he must also be manly. I must have a kind man, yet he must also be capable. He must be respectful and still know his own mind. As I seek to find this balance within myself, so do I require it in a mate. My grandmother used to teach me to "get your head right and your behind will follow". In other words, make sure your mind and spirit are in order and the rest will happen. Focus on the development of your self, learn from whatever relationships you encounter along the way and you will be fulfilled. Good luck and remember to allow yourself time to heal. It sounds as though you are carrying the natural baggage that comes along with heartache.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
12 Mar 07
oh you are right...there was someone who broke my heart into pieces...but I can say that I have learnt what I want and I need and I hope...I pray I am not making the same mistakes again...I hope I can quite keep it right in my mind...no wrong men anymore...better being alone no matter how hard it may be
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
12 Mar 07
love,understanding, respect, honesty, humour and ofcouse a good backgound are the things i have always watched for in my man, haven't found someone with all though. i have seen men with awefully good looks and chivalrous gestures but somewhere deep within they are dandies and full of supercial whims. i would rather choose a good , honest human without superficial good looks than an apparently unsurpassble poseur. thank you
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
15 Mar 07
oh how much I agree with you....it is not external aspect that is important but a person's soul...I am with you...this is the reason why i am talking only about inner qualities and not about physical aspect...the true beauty is inside us...I am looking for good people...gentlemen in their heart
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
17 Mar 07
when you find one, do let me know, i would be happy to congratulate and when you find 2 just make sure pass me the other.. LOL..
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
17 Mar 07
sure I will let you know but I don't think it is happening very soon. have a nice day
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@crosa125 (1484)
11 Mar 07
well i can't say i'm a gentleman with woman,cos i don't know whats that mean!!??? i'm simple and easy guy, i try too be one( whatever that gentlemen's mean is) but it doesn't work, i can say i try too be good with my friends well if my best try is good enough for them or not i don't know, cos they are too good to tell me if i'm not. if you are looking for a perfect one you just wasting your time love,enjoy your life,don't wait for it to come along,time won't pass
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@polachicago (19075)
• United States
11 Mar 07
She already said that she is not looking for perfect man. There is a little difference between perfect and gentleman...
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
11 Mar 07
thank you very much my friend..my English is far from being perfect and it is even more difficult expressing one's feelings...
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@crosa125 (1484)
12 Mar 07
thank you so much for your comment,i didn't say stay without man love,hey friend i'm just like you with poor english,i do really like and know what you saying but is not too easy to find right one,forgive me if it sound different
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@polachicago (19075)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I have to agree that search for gentleman (read “frog willing to be transformed into prince”) is every woman’s dream. I think that we are looking for whole package: good friend who can join our passion, intelligent with good manners and at least moderate gentleman. Charming Agent 007 with sweet look like Jude Law. Prince coming on white horse with red rose, diamond ring and forever love. In reality new age man is spoiled by mothers, trained by stupid p..orn movies and sites leaving woman with huge disappointment. Women are cosmic travelers with big dreams. Women are always dreaming about the man they want. Some are lucky to find Mr. Right…some are still searching. The good news is…keep your standard, accept only the best and you can turn your dreams into reality.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
11 Mar 07
oh my dear...You made me smile...I didn't think it would sound like this..well as a matter of fact I don't believe in the prince anymore...I am so hurt that the only thing I am talking about is a real man, one of those man who is not speaking badly or treating you bad and who still takes courtesy into great consideration...if this turns to be a prince...ok I am looking for a prince...the truth is I am trying to remind myself what I don't want...I want to keep in my mind that I have not to forget who I am and what I am looking for and above all what I think it important and fundamental
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@polachicago (19075)
• United States
11 Mar 07
..my dear friend...you deserved the best...and Laws of Attraction will bring you the greatest gentleman ever..:)
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
11 Mar 07
you are so lovely!!!
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@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
18 Mar 07
It is always important to be nice and kind to other people, whether you are a man or a woman. Being rude and mean does not go very far with me.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
18 Mar 07
of course these words were meant for women too...I hate rude people no matter if they are men or women...in addiction I hope I can find a kind and gentle man one day or another...if it is not possible, I think I'll do without
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• India
18 Mar 07
What do you mean by gentleman.Only good culture intelligence make you happy.Intelligence are always busy on their work,they may not have time to spend with you.Then you may be frasteated.Godd cultural people also have some limitations.They almost believe on their own culture,they dont have time to understand other view or culture.Only good sensiblity or good humour people may understand you.What you say now?
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
18 Mar 07
maybe I cannot express myself very well because of my poor English but I am looking for a gentleman.. a man who think like I do that we are noble because of our heart and who is kind in his heart...therefore he is going to be sensitive and gentle and yes I need a well cultured and intelligent man because I need someone to share my soul with...and I am a busy woman and I hope I am quite intelligent and I am working on improving my culture everyday..so I hope to find someone who respect me and gives me the right importance in his life...if this is not possible, I am here alone and quite happy with myself...would you like to join my new group...women looking for gentlemen? you're welcome!!
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• United States
17 Mar 07
ohh hun,,i truely believe that they are all gone and taken or gay lol..I have the exact same qualities i look for in a man,,especially the courtesy,manners,and he has to have a great sense of humor,.alas i have looked far,long and wide..and i just am running out of belief that he is out there,,and its sad,,because once upon a time..it wasnt this hard to find a real man with real qualities,,:(
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
18 Mar 07
ok let's join and stay together..let's create our own group...women looking for a gentlemen..we can have a great time together..while waiting or not waiting we can profit from our lives the most!!!! have a nice day
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@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I would love to find a man like that. One who makes me feel special and treats me as if I were. One I can trust. One I can be comfortable with. Who will want and love me for who I am. It would be wonderful to find such a man. I wonder though if they do exist at all anymore. If they do they must either be in hiding or very rare because I sure haven't seen or met any.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
16 Mar 07
LOL....sure I don't know if they exist, but I think it is important to have clear in our mind what we most desire...
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@freesoul (3024)
• Egypt
15 Mar 07
There's many gentlemen around if you are not too romantic in defining the word "gentleman". I hate vulgarity too, it's not only about men, it's our world and time.. for many men it's hard to find a sensitive rational "lady" too :)
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
16 Mar 07
yes you are right .I was talking about men because I am a woman but vulgarity is too much part of women's and men's life and I do agree with you...there are good and bad men and good and bad women
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• India
12 Mar 07
yes ofcourse...but i wud term gentleman as d perfect guy.. i hav always dreamt of such a guy... but d reality is dat such guys hardly exists n evn if dey do..they r already comitted... so its better 2 stop dreamng abt d impossiblities..n mak d best out of wat v hav..
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
17 Mar 07
wow...I don't know if I took your message right because I have a hard life with all your abbreviations...anyway I am sure that these men and these people are rare but I hope I will find one...or maybe I won't and I'll stay alone but safe and happy
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@babyjane (1395)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
You wouldn't find a man if you will set a characteristic that your man would be that. It's nice to let your heart choose to whom it would beat rather than what your mind dictate what your man should be. Everyone is looking for a gentleman but they actualy not found it because their heart loves a man opposite from their dream man.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
17 Mar 07
this is the fact...I don't want to lose my time and myself into wrong relationships and wrong men..because I need to remind myself who I am and what I really want..
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@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
12 Mar 07
ya i m a gentle man with out a girl i think being genle is nice and being with a girl is not important
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
17 Mar 07
of course the most important thing is to become the person we want to be and to respect our inner values...then when being happy with ourselves we can have a good relationship with another person
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@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
12 Mar 07
ya i m a gentelmen without a girl i think being gentle is ok but being with a girl is not important
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
16 Mar 07
I think the first important thing is become the person we want to be and we think it important to be
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• India
12 Mar 07
Yes good manners are vey important for me and for very person in there life.A person can win someone's heart by being gentle to him.And by the i am gentle with every person not only to women.A gentle person can never fail in his life,work,love and frindship.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
16 Mar 07
of course I mean a kind and nice person ...a person who is kind because is heart is nice and not because he pretends to be this way to attract a girl..a nice person is nice with everybody, you are right
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@diansinta (7551)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 07
i realy want to believe this kind of man do exist. im waiting to meet him until now. since my devorce, i little bit picky.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
16 Mar 07
I send you a big hug and I hope we can all find what we are looking for
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@humpicas (82)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I would consider myself a gentelman, it's first nature for me to treat others respectfully and with consideration. I would say however that I am not a gentleman to the point of losing my personality and individualism... I do have a colorful vocabulary at times, as well as many opinions on things (not all of them politically correct). Wouldn't it be quite a boring world if everyone's personality were sugar-coated?
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
16 Mar 07
I don't think that being a gentleman or a gentle person means not having a personaliyty...you can be gentle and express and difend your ideas...I don't want a baby or an empty person..I am talking about a clever, well cultured person who thinks that vulgarity is not the rule in the world
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@faraza (159)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 07
it's not that important to find a gentleman. all u need is a man who can provide u enough food, shelter and the basic things in life so u can concentrate your effort and time on other things like making babies... a man cannot be a gentleman forever. it'll be hard to protect him from vicious women out there.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
17 Mar 07
oh i am a very independent woman and I want to count on myself to provide to me..so I am looking for someone who could give something more to me...if this is not possible I am doing without...
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