is it bad to fall in love to a friend?

Philippines
March 12, 2007 1:35am CST
Is it bad to fall in love to a friend whom you think doesn't have fellings for you? Should I say it to the person or should I keep it to myself? It hurts me when I se my friend having a crush on somebody else or being courted by many of our schoolmate. I can't court her because I don't think she would like the idea of "friends turned lover." What should I do.
8 responses
@gianena (256)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
There's no problem if you fall inlove with your friend but if you want to tell her about it, you have to be prepared for the consequences; either she'll be okay with it or she'll be uncomfortable with it. Don't tell her right away, do it slowly - break it to her gently so that she won't be too surprised. Try asking her first in the 3rd persona, like for example, ask her what she thinks about a friend falling inlove to her/his close friend then you'll know her opinion about it. Just think about it. Good luck. ;)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
I've already tried asking her about what she feels about a friend falling in love with her. But her answer is that she's uncomfortable with that kind of situation.
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
i don't think so. if you feel you're falling onlove with your friend, it's ok, there's nothing wrong with that. if you are afraid of telling so, just show it, show her that you care and how much important she is to you. my boyfriend use to do that to me before, he tried and tried until he got me.. even i rejected him, he's still always there for me, thru good and bad times. now we're both happy and we celebrated our 8th year anniversary last february as boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. i hope someday you will be happy as we are. goodluck to you and godbless.
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
i'm happy to hear that. i am really showing her that she's special to me. The only thing I can do now is to wait for a chance or the right timing. Thanks alot!
@anjoks (2080)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
I don't think that at all, cass. It's okay really to fall in love with your friend eventhough u know for yourself that both of you are better off as friends than lovers. That's natural and normal. A lot of people out there got the same situation like yours. . . On a personal not, i advice you not to keep it to yourself cause it won't do you any good at all. Tell her straightforward about your feelings towards her. . . "You'll never know unless you try!" .. Goodluck! (",)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
The thing that keeps me from telling her is the thing that happened to my friend(the one i was talking about) when he told my friend that he wants to court her. My friend cried at that instant. She just said that she cried because she felt very very uncomfortable with the situation. And that made me really scared to tell her my feelings because I don't want to see her cry. BTW, thanks for the advice!
• United States
15 Mar 07
I think it all depends on if you are ready for a relationship change. Are you ready for more than friends? In alot of cases it is hard to get that friendship back, so you have to ask yourself if you are ready to give that up if it does't work out... I'd think long and hard on this. I've lost a couple good friends like this and if I had to do it again, I would have kept my mouth shut.
@netski_15 (423)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I don't think it's bad to fall in love with a friend. Falling in love is not a choice of the mind but a choice of the heart and there's nothing lot you can do about it. I suggest that you tell the person involved about how you feel. At least you'll have no regrets in the end of not telling him or her. Who knows what will happen next???
@mykzone (14)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
yeah... It's hard to change the approach to your friend specially if you guys were friends for more than five years... friends can be loveers, but when the relationshio is over, its very hard to reconcile. super. hehehehe..
• Malaysia
12 Mar 07
nop.. i dun think so.. but yeah, sum people dun like having crush wif their fren- sumbody that they already know...
@laarni080 (127)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
Is not bad to fall in love to a friend, for me its natural some of us before they start there relationship they started as friends or bestfriends, this is the time they will know there attitudes, there do's and dont's, likes and dislikes, they share there problem. But it depends also on a situation what if your friend like others, for me you should try, maybe in time she/he choose you to be his partner.