Peers massage

Philippines
March 12, 2007 2:48am CST
Hi, My child's school has just introduced 'peers massage' for children aged 4-12. They get the children to gently massage each other for approx 10-15mins a day, which apparently helps with self esteem and learning?? Now, the problem we have is this school has a 'No Touch' policy ie, no kiss chase, no game called tag, or cuddling, holding hands etc. But are then asking the children to partake in massage. What are your thoughts on this and do you have any experience in this at your children's schools?
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@aries_0325 (3062)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
I do not agree that massage will improve schools. Not when they cover up the fact that they have bullying problems. If anything bullying will get worse ie 'John your a gay boy as you massaged Thomas' I do agree with other things that happen in school, fun things, ie watching a DVD if all work targets are completed for the week etc. Children do benefit from these kinds of incentive rewards. I will not be letting my son partake unless he says he would like to. I am totally against it. If my son needs massaging, i will do it for 15 minutes before he leaves for school, maybe i should try this for a month and see if his schooling improves!
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• United States
12 Mar 07
You got it. Everything in schools are silly. This is just nuts.
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• United States
13 Mar 07
I think its just weird, but this is coming from the girl that refused to square dance at school so i don't really know what other people would think. wouldn't it be embarrasing for other children tho?
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• United States
12 Mar 07
I am in college now and I am sorry but I hate the idea of a peer of mine even hugging me when I was little...I got in many fights because of people touching me. I hated it. It was okay for SOME girls to hug me but thats it. I hated physical contact. I don't see how massageing is going to help kids...
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• United States
12 Mar 07
I don't think I would like it. I think I would ask that my children not be allowed to do it. I don't really think this has anything to do with school. I mean if they think our students need a massage during the day then hirer a professional to come in.
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
I think that it depends on the child, really. Some kids will get confused by this no touch, massage policy, while others won´t think about it. Also, the teachers are going to have to keep an eye on the older kids to make sure nothing untoward is going on.
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• United States
12 Mar 07
I think it be a good thing but I don't think it should be required. Some kids may feel way to uncomfortable. I was one of the shy kids back in school and I know it would have felt awkward.
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@oriental (1051)
• Uruguay
13 Mar 07
I think this is one of the most controversial discussions, with people against peers massage and people in favour of it. I would like anyone tells me a good site in the web to read about the subject.
• United States
13 Mar 07
That sounds very strange to me. I don't think I would like if my daughters school had that. I'm sure they have it for a good reason, but like I said.. it seems very strange.
@abaskamal (149)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 07
I guess it is like a basic massage. Instead, the kids can learn to do self-massage.
@cjthedog64 (1554)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I've never heard of this either. I'm sure that massage can benefit kids, but I can't imagine a school with a "no touch" policy being able to get away with this. The little ones might not have a problem, but the older ones sure could. Also, I could imagine some kids getting carried away with it and massaging too hard, or making someone else uncomfortable. Good as it might be, I think it's a bad idea to be doing it in schools.
@MsJessi (423)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I'm sorry, but I would have to say that would freak me out a little. If my kids can't even play tag with another child...why on earth should they be touching each other like that?? Especially since at those ages, they are the most curious! It will only lead to alot of confusion and many, many questions!
@pelya178 (694)
• United States
13 Mar 07
i dont like this idea. becuz it can make the children familiar with this word "massage". and they will know it as a good thing. n then god forbid in other situations ppl can take advantage of that fact n say hey its just a "massage" n sexually abuse these children. i disagree with this policy.
@jhartana (1085)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
I think it's a good idea although I doubt if it would be effective for kids. While I agree with idea that it would prove to be relaxing and able to concentrate, on the other hand I think if it could lead to child molestation. I know I may think too far on this, but parents certainly need to find out more about the peers message program in your child's school. It's your decision whether it will give benefits to your child, and make sure your child is in good hand.
@Lavera1 (897)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Bouderhouse, I think that it, the massageing of the students, is countermanding the no touch policy at your child's school. It causing confusion. I personally wouldn't allow my child to be massaged in my home unless is was only by me. Personally massaging is very intense and causes different emotions to be stirred up in the body. So I wouldn't advise it for children. At least not to do on each other. Even if it's supervised.
@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
No...I have no experience with this and have never heard of this before. I personally think it is a little out there. Why should these kids need a massage..and isn't it sending the wrong messages to young impressionable children. If they are allowed to massage each other..then this could lead to other unwanted touching..etc,...
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I think that your kids are being sent a double message! Seems we have gone overboard with the no-touch stuff. When kids can't play tag (again, another double message..."get off the couch and run and exercise more" and "can't play tag, you'll have to touch someone") there is a problem. The touch in tag is very quick and brief for goodness sakes! If kids can't touch playing tag, then they shouldn't be massaging!!!! I'd much rather my child touch in tag than to massage someone. A massage can get out of hand far quicker!
@Michele21 (3095)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I thnk this is kind of weird!! I don't think my daughter would like someone else rubbing on her or she wouldn't like doing it to other kids. I wouldn't like it if her school started a program like this!
• United States
12 Mar 07
I think thats messed up when they can aviod everything else but make it ok for massages!! Massages are too advanced for kids if u know what i mean
@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Personally I think this is just a plain out bad idea. I don't even like the sound of it. And I don't like anyone touching me at all, I have never liked that it makes me uncomfortable. Also my children are the same way and have been since they were babies, not everyone likes to be massaged. And I don't think that a school should be doing this at all. A school is supposed to be a place to go to learn to read and write and do math. Not a place to go to to learn how to grope all over each other, and that is what I would be thinking was going on. JMO
@howard96h (11663)
• New York, New York
12 Mar 07
I don't agree with this, there should be no touching. One day someone is going to accidentally touch someone else where they should not, make them feel uncomfortable and then there is going to be problems. Peer massage, I think it's crazy.