March 12, 2007 6:30am CST
What if you've been in a 5year relationship wherein you are not happy anymore, but you have 2 kids with that person and then you meet someone that seems to complete you in every aspect of your life, someone you are compatible with, someone who simple makes you happy even without exerting any effort. given that he also loves your kids like his own. Would you leave the father of your children to be with the other guy and start a new life together and be happy... or stay with the father of your kids and pretend to be happy even if your life with him is miserable only coz you're afraid of what others may think of. Wrong but happy or Right but miserable?
• United States
12 Mar 07
Think back to why you fell in love with the father of your children. Start looking for those qualities in him again. Talk to him about why you are not happy. Suggest that the two of you go to counseling to keep your relationship together. It will be devistating for your children if you do leave him. You also have to remember you fell in love with this other man without the mix of kids, bills, daily junk that puts a strain on any relationship. Give it time to make sure you are doing what is right for you. Don't worry about what others think, but make sure you think long and hard and give your relationship you are in now the effort it deserves. Good luck.
12 Mar 07
thanks. we got together also because of my eldest son. I think i've done my part. this is not the first time i attempted to leave him. 2 years ago i already left him for the same stressfull reasons. eversince i met him, he's all work i never expected that work would still be his priority even if he has his own family. he never listens to me. it has been a one way relationship eversince. I do all the adjustments for him. when i left him 2 years ago i was doing ok, till my son, who was 4 that time would always look for him so i've decided to give it another try, thinking that maybe the 4months that we were away he'd realize how important we are more than his work. it was ok at first then i got pregnant again, then that's the time i felt the pressure and stress in this relationship coz nothing has changed. till i met this guy who helped me cope up with all the stress, up to now he's the one taking care of my baby whenever im sick, coz my husband dsnt even know how to handle a baby. my eldest son loves him also and actually respected him more that he respects his father. honestly, i've never had someone who cared for me this much. all of my past relationships it was me who's in the caring part. I think this is my chance to finally be happy in life but kinda hesitant coz of what others may think.