Do we try and find someone who's just like are mom/dad??

I don't do it consciously--it just kind of works out that way. I guess I have a "type." The guys I've liked are really preppy, clean-cut, kind of conservative, but also have a fun side. I like guys who are well-read, eloquent, and can hold a conversation. As far as looks, they've always been pretty thin (like my dad). I don't go in thinking "gee I want to date someone just like my dad." It's just something I subconsciously picked up. Guys I've dated just remind me of him. This discussion reminds me of an episode on Frasier where he ends up dating a woman who looks just like his mom. He 's freaking out and wondering if he has some kind of Oedpus complex. Then his dad says, "you don't have an Oedipus complex. Maybe you just miss you mom. I know I do."

on a personal note, i am also aspiring that someday...i could meet someone who has the same qualities as my mom has. honestly, our first relationship has always been with our parents...there are good and bad moments but its part of the relationship. there's nothing wrong if we're looking for a significant other whao has the same attributes/qualities like our parents but let's always remember that love, care, trust and communication are important in any form of realtionship...family or otherwise.

Absolutely NOT!! I cant stand my mothers exhusband and wouldnt want anyone even remotely like him anywhere near me to be perfectly honest with you...

I have often heard in life that when little girls grow up they want someone like their father and will unintentional find a mate that has similar patterns as their father did . I would never have said I wanted someone like my dad , but over the years I have come across similarities between my dad and my husband .

I think there are some ways in which I choose partners that are the same as my dad, but there are big differences too. I think that because your father is your main male influence when you are growing up that is why you admire the good things about him and want to find someone similar.