help with potty training

@abowen (37)
United States
March 12, 2007 2:14pm CST
my 2 1/2 year old son will not go into the potty. i have him sit on it everyday for 5 to 10 minutes every half hour to an hour. i think that he holds it in until he gets the pull up on cause he knows that he can pee in it and it will hold. i'm frustrated cause i know that he is ready. he tells us when he poops and pees he lays down and waits to get changed. he gets his pull ups to be changed. and he puts his pants on and off by himself. so i'm asking does anyone have any ideas i can try to get him trained. or at least to go pee in the potty.
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@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I am going through the same thing right now, my son knows how to use the potty he just has no interest in it, the best thing that has worked for me, is just put pants on him, no diaper no training pants, it'll be a bit messy at first, but way worth it in the end. If he feels the wetness on him, he will eventually go by himself. You will have more laundry and messes to clean up, but I guarantee it will work if you stick with it. Only give him training pants when he goes to bed. That is the best advice I have and continue to ask hif he needs to potty.
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@abowen (37)
• United States
12 Mar 07
we tried that too. it was messy. we only did it for like three days. once he poop in them we changed our minds and went to pull ups. thanks for the info i guess that is our best option.
@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Mine did that too, and I wanted to change my mind, but I stuck with it, I think it is harder for them to learn to go #2, than #1, just stick with it it'll get better, I promise.
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Yes, back off and let him do it in his own time. This is one area that children can control that their parents can't, and they will discover that they can control mom or dad when they resist! When they learn it is for their own benefit not to wear diapers, they will do it. I had a friend who would reward her son for using the potty. She would give him a few M&M's when he went. Sometimes we just have to resort to bribery! Of course this would only work with a child who is not given a lot of candy at other times! Find something that he might find an incentive for using his potty. Here is another hint I've heard: If you are training him on the big toilet, try getting him a potty chair that is his own. Let him put a sticker on it each time he actually uses it, to give him a sense of accomplishment. I had another friend who told their son that the family was going on vacation soon and that if he didn't learn to use the potty, he was going to be left home with a sitter. He trained himself in a week!
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@abowen (37)
• United States
13 Mar 07
i understand the leave them alone thing, but we did that with my daughter and she was 3 1/2 when she started going. i don't want him to be that old. he knows that he needs to go in there. he is just stubborn and wants to always do things his way or no way. i have toys that he uses while he is on the potty and he loves it he knows that he only plays with them when he is on the potty. but it is just a distraction from him to go into the potty i guess. i will try everything thank you.
@anirc750310 (3424)
• Romania
12 Mar 07
Hi Same problem here, till he was about 2 1/2 year old, but suddenly he ask to go to toilet not to potty, so he begin to like the toilet.I ask here the same problem peeing in the nights, we still have the problem, an a mylot friend here told me to put some cakes or someting cereals to pee on it like targets, to be a very amusing thing to do Try that maybe it will work for you Good luck
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@abowen (37)
• United States
12 Mar 07
a friend of mine actually told me about this. but my husband never tried it with him. he sits one the big toilet, he jsut won't go in it. i have been trying to tell my husband to try it with him. but he is really not home that much and forgets when he does get home. but i will try this too. thanks
• United States
14 Mar 07
Sounds like he just wants to control the situation. I would stop pushing for now, it may make things worse. Just leave the potty visible for him to see everyday and he will get tired of wearing diapers, usually by age 3.