Spanking

I wasnt spanked as a child either and I think that if I was spanked a good few times, I wouldnt have pulled half the stuff that I did as a child because I would have known that I couldnt get away with it. I am now a mother of almost a 2 year old rough little boy and let me tell you time outs just dont work for him. A spaking on his butt makes him think and stop what he is doing. It all depends on the child that you are dealing with. It hurts my sons feelings more then anything when he does get a spaking on his butt. I dont think spaking a child will hurt them or scar them for life, kids need to know what is accepted and what isnt accepted and there are different ways to do this with your child.

I only spanked my sons once, but it was when they were very young. It must have been very major because usually I removed them from the situation. I was only spanked once when I was a child. I got lost and ran away and I felt that was not the right punishment. The result was that I was afraid to try anything new. Most of the time I was grounded, kept in my room. I presume that's what people call time out or the naughty spot nowadays. And if I were really bad. there was the no privileges like no Tv, mo going out to play, etc.

I believe in disciplining children in words and in actions. If i can do it with soft words then i rather use this way but there are moments and instances where in we can use some spanking depending of the weight of the fault of the child. I believe that every instances needs to be treated rightly and i believe too that children have their right to explain themselves and should not be treated violently.

I give my daughter a slap on the wrist. She doesn't stay in a time out chair for too long. I believe in spanking, but not with an object like a paddle, when I do spank it's with my hand.