Would you date your friend's ex bf?
By babynanan
@babynanan (133)
Philippines
March 14, 2007 4:09am CST
I have a friend who is in this situation now. To better understand this situation, let's use names but this is not their real names. Bec and Jane are bestfriends for how many years already. They share secrets, they know everything about each other. Bec had a boyfriend names Jack. They are in a relationship for quite a long time until one day, the couple had a huge fight that they decided to call it quits. Jack never contacted Bec and vice versa. There is no communication, azn Zero! They live their separate lives and Jane knows this coz they are best friends. Many months have passed, Jack and Jane saw each other and to cut the story short, they fallen in luv with each other.
Jane really likes Jack but was very reluctant to have a relationship with Jack bcoz it's the ex bf of her best friend.
Now, if you are in the shoes of Jane. What will you do? Will you tell Bec that you fall in love with Jack? Will you take the risk? Which is more important, friendship or love? What if you decided to leave Jack bec of your bestfriend w/o knowing that it's okay Bec, will you regret?
2 responses
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
14 Mar 07
It depends on how much you are attracted to him. If you love someone, you love. There is no explanation.
Then again, I don't think there is any right or wrong when it comes to pure love.
@babynanan (133)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
r u willing to sacrifice your friendship with your best friend?
thanx 4 d response!! i really appreciate it.
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
oh my... the story of my life!
i have a bestfriend who parted ways with the boyfriend. (well you know how it is with bestfriends, we talk about almost everything even private moments.) they were only together for a few months. and i've been witness to the sweet and bitter parts of their relationship. distance really played an important factor. as well as trust and faithfulness.
when i moved to manila, i get to see my bestfriend's boyfriend a lot more compared to them. but i never really thought of him as anything other than my bestfriend's bf.
it was only until months after they broke up that i felt differently. our friendship developed. so many thoughts were running thru my mind when he proposed. but probably love and joy overpowered those doubts. we took the risks.
my bestfriend, my boyfriend (the ex-bf of my bestfriend) and i met in one occasion. it was really awkward but one we had to deal with. it turned out quite well in the end.
actually, my bestfriend was the 2nd person who knew about the relationship. and friendship was never in question.
i wouldn't want to have to choose between my bestfriend and my boyfriend. for the 3 of us, there's no reason why we had to argue over it or cause a rift.
but if i have to, i'd definitely choose my boyfriend.
