Would You Forgive A Spouse Who Takes A Vacation Alone?

United States
March 14, 2007 1:13pm CST
If your spouse booked a flight and vacation plans without you ~ without it being discussed, nor with you and your family invited... And if they actually go... Would you forgive that? Could you get past it?
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@trinihd (996)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I don't know if I could. That sounds very fishy to me. Even if you get mad at someone, you don't just take a vacation without your spouse. I don't know if I would feel differently if I were actually in such a situation but theoretically, it would be very very difficult for me to get past this. Why would a spouse ever want to do such a hurtful thing? After all marriage happened because you wanted to be together forever...so what happened to those vows that a spouse could just do that without warning or discussion or invitation. I would be very disturbed and very suspicious!
• United States
14 Mar 07
Yeah... That happened back in Jan :( I still cant bring myself to forgive it. It was back to his country too...and we have a new child. I would think he would have wanted everyone to meet us:( I, too think something fishy happened. Or I just have a very self-centered spouse. either situation...I dont feel very trusting or positive of the marriage anymore :(
@crystal8577 (1470)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I am not sure I could. For the most part I am very big on family time. Once Friday eevning rolls around, I expect my husband to be at home with the family. I do occassionally take the kids to see my parents. My husband is working & unable to go. That is not the same as taking a vacation all by myself though.
@Anakata2007 (1787)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
I might not be able to forgive that and woudl be very untrusting. It depends on what his or her reason is. Hopefully it was just that they wanted to do something with friends and not just go ALONE. My husband would HATE if I did that, and yet he always talks about going away for the weekend alone to a strange city to see a band that I don't like.