how can i stop my hubby from drinking and lying?

@mykykko (424)
Philippines
March 15, 2007 2:03am CST
i've tried everything i guess..i've talked to him..threaten him that we're going to leave him if he won't stop. but still..what would be the best, any suggestions?
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3 responses
• United States
15 Mar 07
My father was an alcohlic for twenty-four years, basically as long as I can remember. He didn't quit until he was ready. Now he has been sober for almost three years, and I could not be prouder. As difficult as a decision it is to make, you need to ask yourself if this situation is good for you and your children. It might take you actually living up to what you said and making good on your threat. I was a child growing up with an alcohlic father and had no choice in the situation. If I could, I would go back in time and tell my mother that she should leave. Do you wany your children feeling the same way I do now? I hope that all works out for you either way. Should you need a friend, and you're comfortable with it, talk to me. I have been there on both sides of the situation. Best of luck to you and your entire family.
@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
15 Mar 07
Sounds to me there's only one thing left and that's leave. One thing you have to know is you can't change anyone. We just weren't born with those powers. He has to want to quit drinking and chances are a lot of the lying will slow down too. Lying is an addiction as is drinking, smoking,and Yes myLot. LOL It's always eazy for everyone else to say leave. I get that going on in my world too, but we all have a story. Blessings and Best wishes.
@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
15 Mar 07
You cannot control what another person says and does. All you can do is control your own actions. If you don't want him to drink and lie to you, you must now follow through with what you threatened. then he will have the choice of drinking or being with you and your children. Don't be surprised, though, if he chooses the drink. Either way, you will no longer have to put up with his drinking and lieing.