How Selfish Am I?

@sunshine4 (8710)
United States
March 15, 2007 11:52am CST
My husband and I have had tickets to go to a local bar for a fundraiser on St. Patricks Day and now my husband has come down with a fever and cough. I told him that we could stay home if he still isn't feeling well. He told me that I could go with the friends we were planning on going with. I really want to go, but don't want him to end up getting mad at me. What would you do? I don't know if he was really honest with me when he told me to go, of if he just said that because he knew I had been looking forward to it.
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5 responses
• United States
15 Mar 07
I hope he is not the kind of spouse who will tell you it's ok to do something, then get mad at you if you do it. That's an entirely different discussion. I would advise you to go, if you really want to. Before going, you could do something special for your husband. Fix him his favorite snack. Rent his favorite movie for him. Make sure all his meds are close at hand. Tuck him in nicely with a kiss on the forehead before you leave. Let him know that you love him. Hope it works out and that you have a good time.
@sunshine4 (8710)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Thanks for the suggestions. I think that I would feel better going if I do get him a movie, ect. Great idea!
• United States
17 Mar 07
If your hubby is really being sincere and wants you to go. You should go. Do someting special for him that will make the day special for him since he cannot go. The other options is that you or your friends might know someone that doesn't get out much and could not afford to go other wise that would love to use the tickets. It is a fund raiser and the purpose is to help someone isnt it.
@bjsmel (97)
• United States
15 Mar 07
You are not selfish at all. If he didn't want you to go, he has a mouth and he could have told you. You are going with friends, so go have a good time.Just tell him to tell you the truth and if he still says go on...go and he should have no reason to complain. After all, he is a big boy.
@sunnypub (2131)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I would go and have a good time. If he didn't really want you to go then he should not have told you to go. I don't care for the game playing and mind games. I take my husband at his word and if he says I should go then i would go and then if he got mad because I went i would tell him that he should have been honest with me in the first place. You never know, he might enjoy a quiet night at home. I think that if you husband really loves you, then he would want you to go out and have a good time, especially if he knew you were really looking forward to it. just make sure he knows that he can call you if he needs you and then go enjoy yourself.
@stormygrl (763)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I would go , why waste the tickets if you had to pay for them. Just ask again if he's sure he doesn't mind and plan to make it an early night. What would he do if vice versa ...