Is online cheating real,and is it as bad???and can you ever heal afterwards???

Trust is hardly ever built back fully, I know cause I have been married for several years and have had this happen to me. Any way, you are going have to make a desicion on what you want to do. If you stay with him I will be upfront and honest with you. You will always have a fear in the back of your mind that will never go away and that will eat at you. It does me and my husband and I are trying but, it is all coming back and starting to corrupt what we have. Some guys can lie like dogs when others can truly be sincere. You know your BF and how he is, most important aspect is to address it and not to put it on the back burner thinking oh this is just a phase it will pass. Doing this will most likely only delay the heart ache and will result in more pain later on down the road. Situation don't clear up themselves. If he is willing to talk to you without getting mad this is good. But if he gets angry then most likely he is trying to hide more then you know. You will know in your heart the truth but, you must go with what you know. Don't ignore what you are being told from your heart no matter how much you want to deny it. I always knew what my husband was up to and I did ignore it hoping it would get better on its own. It never did. He thought he always had me buffaloed and he never did. I just let him believe that he did. Finally I had to face it head on and nip it in the bud, but it was not easy. Any more I am upfront and honest with him when things arise and I tell him straight out. Guess what buddy you have been caught. Instead of writing a book on it, the way most women do. I learned that you have to speak to a man on these situations like you are another man. This way they do understand "Hey I am not going to put up with this behavior" Best way to learn is to read how men behave and why they act the way they do. To me online flirting is flirting no matter how you do it. What it boils down to is "flirting" You can look at in many angles and still get the same aspect. I feel sorry for you that he did do this to you. He may of been flirting with another man on the other end of the computer and just thought it was a women lol, who knows. But he still did do it and he did deny you. I would never deny my husband and I would never deny that I was married to someone else. Plus I would never flirt with someone online. Most likly he will flirt with someone in real life if he has the guts to flirt with someone on the internet. This is a guys way of looking at things: "What she don't know won't hurt her" I had to learn this the hard way. When you are in any relationship you have to set boundaries for your self and your partner has to set them for himself cause after all you nor him is no longer single and you must abide by that rule. If you or him is not ready to do so then there is no real relationship. Ask him how he would feel if he caught you doing this with another guy online? I bet he would not like it one bit, give him something to think about. Talk to him and listen closly to what he says and how he words things. You will know if he is up to no good, in real life. Eventually they do slip up and don't think you are just crazy and heard things cause it does happen. Most important take the time out to put your mixed feelings aside look at reality, this will most certaintly help you decide what you need to do.

yes, online flirting is real ... i do it to, it's fun! ... but yes it is just that, online flirting, it would not happen in real life(atlest not in my case), if he loves you then you should not worry, it's a normal thing and really amuseing, althou you should control it in some ways because it could easyly evolve in feelings if he becomes confortable whit the other person and have much in common but as i sayd, if he really loves you than don't worry about it to much but still keep a hold on it, im not shure if he will stop for good but if he saw that you were bothered by it then he will calm down and leave it low(r something like that) ... take care ...

Well, in a technical sense, your boyfriend is single. You two are not married. You are involved in a relationship and as such that requires trust on both sides. Are you two living together? Onine flirting can lead to other things. There is no relationship without trust. Has he stopped? Talk to him and really listen to what he has to say. Does he see himself as single and available? If so, then the rest is up to you.

Cheating, regardless of what form it is in, is still cheating. Anything that is done, behind your partners back, without them knowing, and I mean things that are hurtful to your relationship, is still cheating. Internet cheating has become more of a common thing. Healing after someone cheats on you is always hard. You can only really take things one day at a time.

I think online cheating is as bad as cheating in real life. So I would not accept it if that happend.

I think that people are likely to be bolder and less inhibited on the internet, where there is a certain degree of anonymity. However, I think that carrying out an online affair can be just as damaging to a relationship as an actual real-life affair. Trust is one of the most important elements of any relationship, and flirting and having intimate conversations with someone online violates that trust. Especially when your partner is giving the impression that he is single. I don't know specific details of their conversation, but I probably wouldn't classify it as cheating, unless it had been going on for some time. However, if your partner is seeking out relationships with other women online I would not trust him. It is disrespectful and hurtful to you and suggests that his relationships with you is not satisfying enough. I don't know much about your relationship, so I'm not going to tell you what to do, but whatever you decide, let him know that he needs to earn back your trust. If you choose to continue the relationship, the road might be bumpy for awhile, but if you are both committed, you can hopefully rebuild a trusting relationship.

Cheating is cheating, no matter where it takes place. If you have an agreement that things online, stay online, then that is a completely different story. But if you feel that is cheating, then it is. In all situations, it depends on the parties involved, something that needs to be discussed in the relationship.

In a way it is cheating. it means they are looking for something that they don't get at home. it doesn't mean you are bad or wrong but for some reason they want to experiment with someone else. I would put my foot down right away on this and tell him to stop or leave.

I think a lot of this depends on each individual person. If your partner implied that he was single and it was clear that he was implying that, then you and he need to have a serious talk about what you both want from your relationship. If there is a chance that you may have misconstrued what he said as to whether he was single or not, then you may be best to forgive him and move on. There is a very fine line between innocent and not so innocent in the world of the web, and many people have gotten their fingers burned. If your partner was to make arrangements to meet up with this girl then yes, there would be issues and I would be saying break it off. It seem that it's only happened this once and if you love each other, it might be a good idea to give him the benefit of the doubt and try to move on. If it happens again, then obviously, things have changed and you need to talk. Good Luck!

well its true that people are different when they log in online!! they have lots ofpower online that they dont have in real life!! i knwo of people who actually nerds in real life but you should see how they are online!! its like they became studs or something!! i guess your boyfriend was just going with the trend!! he offered to stop since it bothered you right?? so i guess he is trustworthy... most boyfreinds would have asked you to just adjust with their likes!! as long as he doesnt do anythin in real life, i think you have nothin to fear!

you said she is only your bf so you cant blame him for saying he is still single coz that's the fact. but learning him flirting on line really hurts. you cant have your peace of mind.. you are safe if the girl is not living in the same country where you are. yes there are cases of love affair online. i know many. TRUST that is the best word for you to take. if you really feel that your bf loves you so much then trust him. but tell him not to entertain the girl he is flirting always. once is enough.. if he is always chatting her then that another story.. guard your bf. maybe he is walking a wrong path of love.

i am so with you on this concern because i caught my bf talking to girl, but it was worse, it was aa page he was keeping behind my back and he will comment on them very flirty as far as, "you are so sexy","i'm feeling you today" to a co worker at his job, and i found out, and yes i cried and got hurt, he stopped but then when i got pregnant i found another page but thi time he was talking to this girl and actually asking her out, of course he tried to deny it and god knows how he tried, but once he saw tears in my eyes he got hurt to you know

As a man I will tell you don't trust him. If he is able to be influenced online what would happen in a room with another woman if he thought he would not get caught?

I would just like to say that I know for a fact that online flirting can led to other things. one of my friends parents are devorced because of it. So remember if someone really loves you then they will quit. If they feel that flirting is fine then make sure that there is a time that they could be watching you and flirt with someone online and if they says something then tell them that they were doing the same thing. And then come to the conclusion that both you will not do it anymore. O and then Kiss and Make up :)

I don't think I'd mind flirting too much. I would be upset with anything more. I know how fast these things can turn from innocent to full blown fun. I met my bf online, and we met in a chat room. So you never know if it will turn into more or not.

dont worry about it, unless it's someone that lives by you or someone that you know. if it's someone that like lives in antartica than you dont need to worry about it.

well i guess... something is wrong going with ur relationship.. first of all u need to trust ur love and moreover according to me these online flirtings never result in a real life.. u may find it hard to beleive him on the first instant but may b he is looking for something more than he cud get with u... anyway i dont think i shud b bothering more with ur personal life.. but anyways... experiment with ur life!!

my last boyfriend did this quite a bit and it got to me more than youll even imagine. i already have trust issues and seeing him talking it up with another female who obviously thinks hes single killed me inside. I soon after broke up with him because my worst fears came true, he cheated just like he did online...with a girl he MET online..

I can relate to what you are going thru right now. My husband did something like that. What Mollyjo said is true - you need to come to a decision. It will be hard, i know. And it can and does eat at you - the doubts, the fears. I guess it also depends on one's point of view. Others see it as harmless, some dont but i for one believe it is cheating. Why would anyone spend their time and effort online to flirt or whatever if they think it's "nothing". For me, it was hard but i take it one day at a time. Actually, your guy seems like a decent person since was mature enough to notice that it bothered you and even said he would stop. I hope everything works out for you.

i think maybe he had a reasonable problem for saing that if i were u i will trust him and tese him one more time but do that if u r certainely sure he loves u and will be honest with your love