grandmas who wont help.

Why shouldn't your mother do things when it is convenient for her. She has raised her family. Why do you feel like she is obligated to help you raise yours. I see so many older women today having the grandkids dumped on them all day long every day while the mother works out so the family can have all the extras. Do they offer to pay the grandmother like they would have to pay a regular sitter. No. They think the mother owes it to them. When women get older, there are lots of problems they face with their health that younger people don't face. I think you are being very disrespectful to say that your mother saying she is sick is "bull." How do you know? If she feels sick, it is her privilege to say she is sick. Maybe she is just tired. Young parents don't seem to realize that a couple of active grandchildren are too much for an older person to take on for more than a few minutes at a time, and, if your mother is calling to say that the kids won't listen, it sounds as though you need to work a bit on the behavior of the kids. The fact that your mother is hiding from you by not answering the door, tells me that you are asking too much of her. Please back off and let her enjoy the life that she has left without asking her to take on your duties.