Does your spouse constantly talk about your kids
By gramskaren
@gramskaren (661)
United States
March 18, 2007 7:05pm CST
and want them to always do better than what they are doing? I get tired of listening to him talk about how they could do so much better than what they are doing. I tell him they are grown ups and can decide for themselves what they want to do. What can we do to make their lives differnt if they don't want to do it themselves? Our son is 25 and lost his license for driving under influence. My husband just talks about how he leaves his car outside and doesn't put in garage. I understand that he should do it but if he doesn't he will pay the circumstances right. He also spends money like water. He has a job that he doesn't have benefits and hubby thinks he should get something better but it his choice. My daughter has a son who is 2 and she is not married and lives with another guy who is not the father of the boy. She does not know what she wants in life and my hubby does not agree with how she is raising son. What do you do to tell him that it is there life and you have to them live it right? What are your opinions on this? Would like to know some objectives?
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@apakabar2007 (1693)
• Netherlands
3 Jul 07
Well.....that sounds like my dad. He did to all of us (his children). Sometimes it's just quite pain in the neck hearing him telling us what we must or mustn't do. Of course as parent, he didn't want us to take any hard fall nor do things that we will regret. When I was young I used to get tired listening to him and I still am....hehehe. But I realize....he kept us on a good track and if we didn't listen to him, he'll always be around to make sure we didn't hurt that bad.
Of course, it is our live and our own choice....but personally, I do need that once in while to remind me if I did something wrong and makes me a better parent for my own child. And if I don't agree with him, than I just have to proof that I can do better not only to my dad but to myself. Nothing more happier for my father than seeing me have a happy life and that goes the other way around....nothing more sad for him seeing me misserable and in trouble.
I think you should tell your husband how you feel about him driving yu nuts with this. And that he should tell your children directly (without angry....just normal talk) instead of telling you. Or else....maybe better start thinking about buying some earplugs....hehehe.....
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 May 07
Well, all we have are Neices and Nephews, and God children as my husband and I were never able to have any children. So we do not have any real experiences from that stand point, but I have seen other men who Love to Brag about their children, and share what they are doing in their lives compared to men. I guess it just something that comes natural to them?
@AmbiePam (85760)
• United States
31 Mar 07
This seems to be a thing that men do more than women. Maybe it's because women have the kids and after that, everything is down hill. : ) Also, I've noticed as parents get older, even they are no where near AARP range, they worry about what their children are doing and how they will get along if something should ever happen to them. With your son having a DUI, it has to be a concern that responsbility may not be something he considers a priority. I'm going by your statements about your son's spending habits and DUI. And because your daughter doesn't have a 'permanent' arrangement going on, that adds to the concern. Men always have to "fix" things. And when they can't, it just runs around in their minds until they verbalize it and drive their spouse nuts. Perhaps time will make this go away, but you are right, you and your husband and cannot change anything. It is up to your kids. I wish you ALL the best of luck! : )
