How do you handle things like this?

Australia
March 19, 2007 5:29am CST
When your significan other, ie. boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife, hurts your feelings or does something to upset you how do you deal with it? I'm currently in a relationship where my boyfriend does little things that hurt my feelings, I don't want to leave him because I love him and I KNOW that he loves me and I feel that we are meant to be together, for now at least. I let him know when I'm upset by something he has said or done and he always says he is sorry and I put it down to some things that have happened in his life that has caused him to have less respect for women. I'm wondering how other ppl deal with this sort of stuff, maybe you have a few tips that I could use in my relationship. Anyway thanx for reading this and letting me vent a little :)
3 responses
@gasmas100 (587)
• India
26 May 07
honestly sis...learn to b more patient and understanding as well as compromising..........seriously, there are always things that we dont like about each other but have to as the other peron means alot to u...........wonder if he likes coming shopping with u.......if he still does, then take him few more imes....n he'll go insane.....yet he'll keep up with it. u need o understand that no 2 ppl are laike haveing the same choices, preferences.......its just a matter of understanding n patience that keeps us going.........thats what love is all about. all the best sis!!!
• Australia
26 May 07
lol @ shopping, he hates it but he puts up with it for me. I wrote this post when I first started going out with my boy and needed advice about how I was feeling, but in time I have learnt more about his personality and your right, I did have to learn to be more understanding and I think I have done that as now I know how to deal with him in any situation and am really happy with our relationship.
• India
28 May 07
sounds great..really happy that that alls ell in ur reltionship....take care sis.cheers !!!
@ricknkae (1726)
• United States
26 May 07
well I think that it's up to you to see if those "little things that hurt [your] feelings" are annoying enough to jeopardize your relationship DO you think it will still upset you 2 years from now if you saty with him? will it get worse Because I have learnt something, people don't change .... so can you live with it or not I think you need to think about how you see your future and then act accordingly good luck
• Australia
26 May 07
Yeah I don't think the little things are enough to throw away a good relationship and even though it hurts at the time I get over it and it doesn't pop in to my mind at any other time later down the track.
@aaa0126 (205)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
hi there! love has lots of meaning,though, if you really love your partner then you must stick with him?!whatever happens nobody can dictate you what to do, coz you two are the only involved in that relationship! but as you can say,,your partner have becoming less respect to women,,tsk tsk,, if no respect but what love can he give you! think wisely my dear,,don't be a martyr! i'll tell you what i've learn in the past: GOD won't give you the one who really can make you happy and who can love you in return, if you're not going to let go the ONE whose hurting you so much!
• Australia
19 Mar 07
Good point, but I must say that he doesn't hurt me so much that it is making my life hard to cope with, and he does appologise, but I shouldn't defend him because it is still wrong. If I leave there will be heartache for us both and I honestly feel like we are supposed to be together. Also his mother left him when he was a baby and I think this is why he has little respect for females as she rejected him later in life when he found her. I don't want to leave him and don't think I can right now, he means so much to me. Sheesh love is hard sometimes lol