When relationship / marriage fails...who is to blame, the man or woman?

@joyce959 (1563)
Philippines
March 19, 2007 9:44am CST
When we enter into a relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend) or marriage (husband and wife), we always want to make it work and succeed. However, in every relationship there are problems and challenges. Sometimes we can overcome the problems and challenges. But there are instances, however, that no matter how hard we try to save the relationship, it ends and a failure. Who is to blame when the relationship fails or end. Is it the man or the woman? Why?
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@kaka135 (12596)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 07
When relationship or marriage fails, it doesn't really matter who's to be blamed. Both parties have the responsibility. I always believe communication really helps to build and maintain a relationship. We need to always share our thoughts, share our dreams in order to understand each other better, and hence we can live together in our whole life. If there's a communication problem, perhaps both need to work it out. If it's really can't be worked out, well, then perhaps it's time to get separated. It doesn't really mean it's anyone's fault, it's just doesn't work out for these two people. Sometimes, things just can't be sorted out by theory.
@joyce959 (1563)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
Yeh...true. Failed relationship should have been avoided if both parties have good communication, and are ready to compromise with each other. I appreciated your view. Happy Posting!
@mummymo (23710)
19 Mar 07
Although I would dearly love to say that it is always the mans fault , I can't! You cannot generalise who is to blame for the breakdown of relationships! It is all down to the individuals personalities and how commited they are to each other! Really, really wanted to say men!
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@joyce959 (1563)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
Oh men!...Most women would love to say its the men. But you know? I've heard someone commented that its the woman's fault if the marriage fail...and that comment came from a woman!
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@mummymo (23710)
19 Mar 07
not a feminist then was she ....
@joyce959 (1563)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
can't say that she's not a femenist...but i guess she has some reasons of her own why she commented that way... thanks for your comments...
@minty3 (592)
• Nigeria
19 Mar 07
when a marriage fails, both parties have their blame just that one may receive more blame than the other. it takes two to tangle; and if the two agree that it will work, then it will work. if it breaks, it means the two also agreed it couldt work and allowed it to break.
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@joyce959 (1563)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
Right...marriage is a two-way relationship and for it to be a failure... "it takes two to tangle it"
• United States
19 Mar 07
I think that there are reasons on both sides that it doesnt work out. in fact in my marriage that failed he was very abusive, and i wanted to believe it was all his fault because of it, but i know that it wasnt all his fault i had my flaws as well which also had to do with things not working out. i do believe in my case there was a good part that was because of him and his temper, but i do have to admit my part as well
@joyce959 (1563)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
Well, its good to know that at least, you realized and admitted that you also made a part in the failed marriage and that it's not just your hubby who's the culprit. Sometimes others are always putting the blame on their partners for the failed relationship. Thanks for sharing.
@cher913 (25902)
• Canada
19 Mar 07
It takes 2 to tango and by saying that i would imagine that is both partner's fault (usually unless there is abuse)...
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