I have a bad heart ache!

@Lakota12 (42684)
United States
March 20, 2007 1:24am CST
I just found out tonight that my mom had a storke today but was on going from Thrusday night . as she was driving my nephew with her she couldnt find where she was going (no problem for she never knew direction any how ) but when she set thu red light and green light thats bad the she turns from left lane not turning lane then Friday she tried to call me but we had left the house So I tried to call her Sunday when I knew she was home and phone was busy for almost 2 hours then I got answering machine no asnswer from her I tried calling this morning still no answer. My sis calls me tonight telling me she had a stoke left side of brain is messed up she cant talk cant write but she can still walk. then I talk to my brother he says they are going to run test tomorrow to find where blood clot might be between heart and brain. I cant do any thing if I go up there and I know for sure they are going to put her in assistant living place . would you go up to her now or wait an go in a month for her birthday? Which is also my daughters birthday?
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
20 Mar 07
Oh I am so sorry, what a horrible time for you, I know how it is feeling so helpless as these sorts of things people have to do it all themslves all you can do is show her how much you care and love her...I wish her well
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
20 Mar 07
thanks Gaby I cant even talk to her on the phone for she cant talk I can kick myself I should have called her last week
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
20 Mar 07
oops sorry you not gabs cant see good this morning am going back to bed
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
20 Mar 07
No I think you need to go now Sweet I am not being funny but you will regret it if anything happens to her God forbid I am sorry I was not on here earlier but I had a Visitor so I was not on Computer. I should have been with you but I am so sorry Please Lakota go now, you need to go now and you know why I am saying this I love you loads and I will try to be here when you get up but I am going out at 2pm my time so I do hope that you will be up by then Oh Sweet I feel so awful now that I was not Messenger when I got up I am so sorry Loads of Hugs to you xxxxxx
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
20 Mar 07
no problem as I knew your friend was coming over and then you were going some where later. Linda is taking off today to stay with me she just feels like she need too
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Hey LKo12 Please,take my advice & go to your Mom-I beat myself up everyday for not going to my Momma when in my heart I knew she was sick (she wouldn't admit to me how bad it was nor did my father tell me) I'm not saying your Mom is gonna pass away but if anything happened you would have that regret for the rest of your life. +'s 2 U
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
20 Mar 07
ps a prayer just went up for your family
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Mar 07
thanks for prayers I just really dont have the money now to go and no one to take care of grnad daughter for I couldnt take her with me for I would have no one to take care of her up there. 3 years ago I didnt have all this and I flew up there
• Bangladesh
21 Mar 07
Its really shocking to read the fact. wish your mom come round soon.Your presence need her most at this moment. Try to solace her that you all are beside her and she is not alone. hope she will come to her normal life soon.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Mar 07
thanks for your concern she seems to be recovering pretty fast
• United States
21 Mar 07
I am so sorry to hear about your mom, Lakota. You must be devastated. I hope the tests show that your mom will recover quickly. Bless you and your family.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Mar 07
so far so good I do beleive she will recover from this maybe not all the way but where she can get around ok and talk to me
@Caila611 (992)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I'm so sorry to hear about your mom! I will certainly keep her in my prayers. I personally would go see her now. She's probably frustrated that she can't talk on the phone at the moment so seeing your face will do her some good!
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Mar 07
thanks not sure if my face would do good ha ha but we have talked on the phone and she has got better at it
@mel_87 (856)
21 Mar 07
awww im so sorry to hear this, if it was me i would go up now but it depends on how far away she is and if u can afford to go really, but it is what u think will the best to do. hugs xxx
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Mar 07
thanks mel the way gas prices are over here its hard to go now and when we go up for birthday we have to save up money for gas amd money for motes rooms if need be
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@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Bless you heart! You should go. Never wait because she could be worse later. Do not kick yourself, you are only one person and can not be everywhere at once. I live next door to my Mother who is showing signs of dementia and I am her care taker. Please go see your Mother, they are so precious and do not live forever. I wouldn't be able to wait a month. I would be so stressed by the time I got there I would not be any good. I am glad I made the choice to move back to my hometown to care for my Mother so I can have these wonderful memories of her everyday. I lived 350 miles away when I made this decision and it has been the best one for her and me. Maybe you could bring your Mother to your house and care for her.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I tried to bring her home 3 years ago and sis thru such a fit and mom didnt want to leave her house this time I will not ask for I have offered several times thru the past 3 year for her to come stay with me as I talked to her today I fell very good at her progress alto words were slured I could under sand them and she wants to go to assitat living place to be with people her age so guess i have to give in to thos wishes I am over 500 miles away I can make it there in about 8 hours driving
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I am so sorry to hear about your mother, yes you need to be with her. I survived a stroke couple of years ago and had to learn to write walk hold the fork and all. My prayer goes out to you and your family. I hope they find the problem it took along time to find mine it was a blood clot my right side was paralized I am fine now so maybe she will be ok. Take care.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Mar 07
they said something about a clot and she seems to be doing better today
• United States
20 Mar 07
If you are very close with your mother go now if you are not then wait. I pray she will be alright.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I am and I aint close to her we talk good on the phone but we arent to much alike and 3 years ago I talked her out of the hospital talked her out of using a walker and she went backto driving and every thing now this time is different and my sis and bro are on top of it but no one stays all night with her at the hopsital LIke I did.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Sorry to hear this. I would go and see her without waiting. If she is old, you never know what is next.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
20 Mar 07
thanks still not sure My brother is to keep in touch 3 years ago I went and got her well but this time is different and I have grand daughter to take care of and I think it would upset her more as she cant talk right now altho the Doc told them she should get that bad pretty good
@mummymo (23707)
20 Mar 07
Lakota sweetheart I am so sorry about your mum and I know you must be upset! You have to follow your own heart on this one honey, I had a discussion on here a week or two about my Gran having a stroke a few years ago (she is now 83, healthy and fit - helping with my housework!) from which she recovered fully with no lasting effects on her health and she still lives very independantly! I know that each one of us reacts and responds differently to medication and Physical therapy but I hope your mum recovers well from the stroke and that her health improves dramatically! When you hear from your brother and sister find out what the results seem to say and make up your mind from there which is best for you to do! Sending you all my thoughts and prayers for you and your family honey!
• Grand Junction, Colorado
20 Mar 07
Lakota I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I would personally try to get up their now if at all possible. I hope that the tests go well and will keep you and yours in my prayers and hope that all turns out well. Please keep us informed with what happens with your mom, as I'm sure that many of us will be keeping her in our prayers. Try to get some rest if at all possible. :)
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
20 Mar 07
thanks she needs all the prayers she cant get and I will keep an update running as I find it out hugs