adopted children

i would tell it to my adopted child if ever i have one... i want her to grow knowing that she's not biologically a part of the family but she's very special that's why we've welcomed her into our family no matter where and from whom she came from... What's important is giving her the right to know the truth right from the start.

I would tell him on the age of maturity.I cn't hide this fact because any way he will be know it on any other time.That time he will feel bad.

They should definatly know from the begining. If not then when they get older and find out then they are going to be really upset at you for lieing. Also if you dont tell them then you will have to lie about a lot of things, like if they ask question about when you were pregnant with them.

My parents have adopted three little kids (around the same ages as my kids so it is weird) but they have let them know from the beginning that they are adopted, and instead of growing my my moms belly they grew in her heart!!

I would always tell him/her. It is important to know where you came from. I would make a scrapbook of all the info and make it into a story. Ever so often I would read from the book and add more as the months/years go by. One day, he/she might want to find their "bio" family and this would help.

i dont agree with you because you adopted the children if you dont have one so there are no resons to tell him i think that when the child know about himself he will hate his father

my cousin's sidtuation is hard. my father's first cousin adopted her niece. they never let them know she was adopted til now. the adopted is already 15 years old. they don't plan in telling the adopted that she was only adopted and is not a real child. the thing there is, her family knows that she is adopted and has brother and sisters from the real family. it is scary that one day they will tell her about her real situation.

i would have to be honest from the start, not sure exactly the age to tell them as bit hard to understand, when i thought child old enough to understand.

If i adopt a child,i think l would not let him to know that i have adopted him/her. BUt if he comes to know about it through other poeple, friends, relatives, i will convince him that i have adopted him.

I'm an adopted child. My birth mother had me adopted when I was 10 weeks old because her husband was due out of prison and I wasn't his child. My adoptive parents told me right from the start that I'm adopted. They told me that it made me special because they hand picked me to be their child. It didn't really make a difference to me though you know, to me they were my mom and dad and thats just the way it had always been. They gave me a book to read, like a storybook that explained what it meant to be adopted and I enjoyed the story, it explained in a way I could understand at the tender age of 5 - although they told me before then. I've since done a search for my birth parents - specifically my mother, but I've had to come to the conclusion that she doesn't want to be found. Not that it makes much of a difference though. My mom and Dad are my mom and Dad. I don't need anyone else.

I'll probably tell the child as soon as she or he can understand things. So when he or she grows up there will be lesser problems regarding his or her personality or identity. The sooner the better here. Let the adopted child now that she's very important because instead of developing in your womb and coming out from your womb he or she was developed in your heart and comes out right there. That's how important he or she is to you.

I most certainly agree with you. I would tell the child at a certain age that he is adopted.It would not be honest if you hide it from him. If the child sees that he is being loved i am sure it will not matter to him.of course this has to be expained well so that the child will not resent his being an adopted child. The child would feel betrayed if he heard he is adopted from other persons.

Let them know they are adopted at an appropriate age (when they understand what adopting means) and at the same time, t5ell them you love them just as one's own children

i would let them know they are adopted. so they wont turn up being a rebel, cannot accept that you hid things from them.

I would let them know from the beginning that they were adopted and that made them special because I chose them. It is better to be honest with them then let them find out from somebody else when they got older. If they always knew then they would not be traumatized by the information like so many are, even adults!

I think a child should be told at the earliest possible age that he/she is adopted. It would be a horrible shock to find out much later in life. Also it is much easier for a child to accept it at an earlier age than say when they reach 14 or 15. I think it is also important to tell adopted children how lovingly the plans for adoption were made, how they were expectantly awaited and how special they made their adoptive parents feel.

I have a G/F who has a 5 and 8 year old adopted boys and they know it.....she hasn't told them anything about their mother,like she said.....when they want to know,they'll ask....I think it's a good thing to let them know from the beginnig,it saves all the hurt and pain when they are older and more vindictive.....if they grow up knowing,they can't get mad or hold it against you at a later date

If I adopted a child I think I would tell them they were adopted. Probably not until they were older and I thought they could grasp the whole situation.

I am an adoptee and my parents told me when i was very young. They explained what that meant and told me they love me as if i was conceived by them. They did not reveal the whole story or many details till i was eighteen and legally able to search if i wanted too. And at that time i felt that was a good thing. I don't think i was mature enough as a teen to handle the information. That ant the fact that knowing me i would have wanted to search before i was legally able to.

I've never adopted...but my aunt has. She told her daughter from the beginning that she was adopted. I think it's very smart. Learning you're adopted later in life could have lead to a traumatic experience.