Forget and Forgive

@dpk262006 (56170)
Delhi, India
March 21, 2007 12:17am CST
If something unpleasent and nasty happens with you in that case do you follow forget and forgive policy? Or do you thinK about taking a revenge and if you think about revenge, do you actually go for it?
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11 responses
@aidonia (4210)
• Greece
21 Mar 07
About the forget and forgive ,I keep only the one...I mean I can forgive very easy,one two words is enough for me to forgive but to forget NEVER.I be with the person as I use to be without keeping hard feelings but I don't forget. About the revenge ,definitely NO.I believe the revenge harm more the people he take the revenge than the person you take revenge to.Eat your soul and your heart and I the end you don't feel better as you can imagine it gonna happen.
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
28 Mar 07
Aidonia, the sweet nightanlge, thanks for your wonderful and considerate and kind thoughts. You are right and I agree with you that if you are taking revenge from others you will also feel the pain of revenge. (+) rated, as always.
• United States
21 Mar 07
It depends on the situation. There are not many things that I 'forget' but I can forgive alot. I try hard not to drop to the level of needing to get revenge. It crossed my mind, of course.. I'm human and when you have been hurt or "wronged" you want the other person to feel the pain they have caused you but I'm not normally a person who acts on things right away so I tend to think about it and calm myself down. My mother always said to leave it in God's hands. He will handle it - I might not see it when he does, but I can rest easy knowing he will take care of it. What goes around, comes around. It's not my place to make it come around so I let it go. Some times I ask God to forgive them for they know not what they have done. Mostly, I do not want to be evil like them - if I take revenge then I am now as bad as they were to begin with. I cannot allow them to have that power over me, causing me to become someone I am not.
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
28 Mar 07
As usual one of the most wonderful responses from you. I may add here that I also believe in the same theory that ---I do not want to be evil like others, because if someone is hurting me causing pain, I can feel it so I think whatever I have tolerated with pain and discomfort....I should not cause that kind of pain to others. I also feel if I am hurting someone it means I am hurting myself too. (+) rated.
• India
21 Mar 07
I think how one reacts to such a situation depends a lot on how you have been conditioned..Also there is always a lesson to be learnt out of any situation..specially from something in which you feel like reacting in a aggressive or rather negatively way.. So I generally try to chk out how come I landed into such (nasty/unpleasant) situation..& then forgiveness follows.. I believe by forgiving someone you are helping yourself to grow..Its not that you are being GR8 by forgiving someone.. My belief says "what goes out always comes back manifold".. May be coz of this belief I gen. adopt forgive, learn your lesson and then forget policy...
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I think forgiveness is a process * this quote is widely use here lol** and it really took me time to forgive but I never planned of a revenge. Because revenge will only resulted to another revenge it is not helpful to be a recourse to do with the person you get angry with. The more effective way is to let the time heal the wound and forgiveness comes naturally. Sorry my friend If I missed some of your discussion been so busy with work and law school.
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@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think you forgive people for yourself not for them. Not forgiving someone leaves a grudge on your mind, and they probably dont even think about it anymore. I think the best revenge, is letting them know, how little you care, and it doesnt bother you. I am not saying you have to keep them in your life. But you should definitely forgive, take that weight off of your shoulders, and move on.
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@chavezrmc (5492)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
It's normal to people to think of revenge but oftentimes we do not do that. In my case its easy to forgive but hard to forget. I am also thinking of revenge but in time i forgot all about what i am thinking to get even. Its just that it not easy to foget what had happened to your life.
@NancyLobo (681)
• India
21 Mar 07
I tend to forgive the person who has wronged me, I never take revenge as according to the Bible we have to forgive anyone who does us wrong otherwise Lord Jesus has said we also will not be forgiven unless we forgive others, forgetting is tough, because the scars will remain what the person has done but with the grace of God that also can be achieved.
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
when the situation is just ripe, or it just happen last night, i think i am still angry and hurt. there are many things that inside my mind because i was hurt. i also think of making revenge. But i did not do anything about vengeance. Because if your hurt you also wanted to hurt someone who hurt you but what happens next. it will leave you lost. Thats why when something bad happens to me, i usually let the day passed and decide whether to have revenge or not, but i choose not.
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@luzamper (1360)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I prefer to forgive than to revenge. In the Holy Bible, God commands us to forgive so that the Father in heaven will also forgive us. God also said that vengeance is for Him and so whatever bad thing people do to us, we should forgive them and let God do the revenge.
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• United States
22 Mar 07
I have recently found out that my husband has been having an affair and that we are going to split up. I am 8 months pregnant. Now, I really wish that I had the vindictive bone that would allow me to enact some sort of revenge. My husband has very long hair, to the middle of his back, it is beautiful! I would have loved to have cut his hair while he slept. That would have felt so nice. But, I dont know, he might have killed me afterwards! It sucks to be the type of person who takes the high road. Maybe I can just jinx him and hope it all falls out! Would any of you done it?
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
28 Mar 07
I am really shocked to read your state of affairs. I have my full sympathy with you. However, I feel you yourself will have to find out the solution of the problem...will have to discuss with your hushand.
@wmg2006 (5386)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I go through all the emotions first. First I am angry, then hurt, then I think horrible things. I never take revenge I try to work through it and pray for guidance.