is it time for us to get married??

Philippines
March 21, 2007 1:43pm CST
well i have already 2 kids and yet me and my live-in partner doesn't plan on getting married..how can i know if its the right time..i know that it's not necessary for you to get married just because you are now pregnant or you already have kids..right??help me..thanks
5 responses
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
hi. i'm 19 and i'm expecting a baby on july. my boyfriend and i are not living together because my parents won't allow it. i think you should just be happy that your partner is living with you while you are raising the kids because it very comforting to know that he's physically there to support you. I think if your still not sure when to get married, then maybe you should just wait until you can support your kids without relying that much on your parents. For me, getting married means your parents are done with their responsibility of raising you. i just wish you good luck.
• United States
22 Mar 07
I disagree. A parent's job is to care for their child. That is a lifetime comittment. Many people fall on hard times and a real parent will help their child out when they do.
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
well yeah it is their lifelong commitment but that doesn't mean you should depend on them forever just because you know they will always help you out. but what if they're gone? that's why they raised you. to be independent. it's good to know they're there but as their child, its also our responsibility to make them proud and let them feel that we could still go on when they're gone.
• United States
22 Mar 07
It's right for you to get married whenever you feel ready to be married. It's a really big deal to many people and nothing but your personal feelings should make you get married. Not being together for "too long", not pregnancy, not children, not social pressure, not parental pressure. Only whenever *you* are ready for you to be married.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
of course im ready..but the problem is that we dont have enough money to plan our marriage,hehe..hope that it will be soon..tnx 4 d advice!!
@umair627 (70)
• Pakistan
21 Mar 07
brother its a trend of new era that we have kids before getting married. the natural process is first get married and than have a kids....so i prefer you to get married as earlier as poosible
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
yeah ure ryt, todays generation is very different..
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I have been with my guy for 6 years, we also have two children, I dont believe it is right to marry just because you have children. When is the right time to get married? When you and him decide you want to spend the rest of your life together, forsaking all others, and want to share that with your friends and family. Only you and him know that answer, so do some soul searching talk to him and decide between the two of you. Good Luck
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
thanks for the advice!!
• United States
21 Mar 07
Ask yourself this question: In 40 years, can you see yourself with or without them? I asked myself this when my husband and I were friends and I couldn't see myself without him. I was engaged to someone else at the time, and I couldn't see myslef with him when I was 30, much less 60. I hope this helped and best of luck. Just remember: you decide when you're ready. You can get as much advice as you want, but when all is said and done, the decision still rests on your shoulders.