Does time really matter?

It really depends person to person. I have seen many people who couldn't judge a person even if they've been with them for over a year. At the same time, there are people who could judge others in less than 5 minutes of meeting them. Almost everyone is atleast slightly unsure before marrying anyone - infact if you're completely sure, you might want to ask yourself if you are being blind! Marriage is about adjusting to each other, and is a totally different ball game as compared to dating, or even live-ins. I think, if you can get the person to meet your parents and if they approve (or if they reject him/ her based on silly reasons) you should just go ahead and marry, because the earlier you marry, the better position you are in, to adjust to the lifestyle of your partner, and vice versa.

Well this is my case...me and my hubby have been dating for 1 1/2 yrs then i got pregnant and then we decided to get married. I know it is not an ideal situation to be married but i never married him just because the baby is on the way. I married him because i want to spend my life with him and have a family with him, time was not that big factor in our marriage life, now we have two kids in just two years and we help each other rear the children and or little family. I personally know a couple who have been dating for 10 years before getting married but then splitted in less than a year..what does that say to you? and i have been dating someone for four years but still there are lots of things i don't know about him.

Of course time really matters, especially when talking about marriage, because in marriage this is not a simple thing before you do it, make sure that you are very sure to that person and you are ready to have a new life with him/her.

I would say it really depends on the situation. There are a lot of factors to be considered before settling down and these factors also differ from one person to another. I'm not a materialistic person but one major factor for me would be financial stability. Both of us should be stable enough that we can provide for our needs especially if we're planning to start a family. Sometimes you find the right person but he still probably needs to do a lot of things for himself in order to get to that "stable" state. I know for sure that love is the most important thing but then even if we all want to be so romantic and idealistic, reality is in a couple's life, there might be some "money matters" to discuss and if not properly handled might even ruin a relationship. I also think that both of you should be ready for all the challenges you're going to face. It's not going to be fun all the time. Will you be able to handle all his shortcomings? Is he going to do the same too? I think in that case, you'll only know if you got to be with your lover for a long time. But then, sometimes you'll find somebody you truly mesh with and everything is just great. So it really depends. It's all up to you. What i know is, the quality of a relationship is more important than the "quantity"--years you've spent together before even settling down. For my last thoughts. Love and Commitment involves faith. No one can really tell what's going to happen in the future. Love can grow or wilt. If both of you will have faith that no matter what, you can surpass anything because you will never give up easily and you will always try to make things better, i think that will grow to a fruitful and successful marriage. Both of you just have to work for it...:)[and it also helps to pray... you just might find the answer]