Best ways to explain to a 5 yr old good touches verses bad touches strangers etc

United States
March 21, 2007 11:15pm CST
I have been on and off explaining to my daughter the differences in between good and bad touches. Its not that i think any thing has happened, its just that i want to make sure that she is fully aware. She is a very loving and trusting person. and no matter how many times i try to explain to her about strangers and such she will still talk to any one she meets and even if only a 3 minute conversation with someone in a grocery line she will ask for a hug before we head out. Im concerned for her. I fear that i havent explained it all in the best possible way and i want to make sure that i cover all the bases and and explain it to her so that she can fully understand it. Any suggestions on a way to explain it to her in a direct and subtle way for her to understand without being totally freaked out??
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
When I was five, I got in a car with a stranger and went for a ride. My parents also didn´t want to scare me before that. Nothing bad happened, thank goodness, but you can imagine how bad it could have been. So I think, although you are right not to want to freak your daughter out, that you need to explain that there are bad people in the world who do very bad things to children. Let her know that you can´t tell if people are bad or not just by looking at them or talking to them. Many pedophiles claim that the children they attack were trying to seduce them, even if they were just toddlers. A hug from a little girl could certainly set one of these guys off, so I think I would tell my daughter that hugs are a very special thing meant for people that we know well, like grandparents and aunties.
• United States
22 Mar 07
Oh my gosh! Thank goodness nothing had happened! I would freak right out if my daughter got into a car with a stranger!! She almost did once. she thought it was her uncle. Thank you for your response.
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@aprilsong (1886)
• China
22 Mar 07
at first,i feel sorry for what you said,you know,childhood is very important for a kid,it can even influence her future.we chinses have an old stroy:the mother of a very famous literate had moved to three different places just want to let her son live in good surroundings.well, once other kids bully your daughter too often, they will get used to it.so i think at first you should try to change another class for her,if that doesn't work, you should try to move to another place.try to make your daughter's childhood happy and wonderful.
@mjsdls (1841)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I do not have any girls but I have a son. I have tried to explain this to my son. It is not an easy thing to explain. He says he understands. I pray that he does. I pray protection over him everyday.