Family relationships don't seem to be as valuable. Trivia, do Grandparents spend

@nowment (1758)
United States
March 22, 2007 12:16am CST
more on their grandchildren or their pets? I posted this as trivia and it is turning into a good discussion, because the answer is, that more is spent on pets then on grandchildren. It seems that to often people don't see or even really know their grandparents anymore. I know it is hard especially when they are out of state, my Grandmother was out of state but I knew her and knew her well. I learned a great deal from my grandparents, especially my grandmothers. But with divorces, and separations, and the whole need to be young to often the whole grandparent/grandchild relationship seems to get lost. Grandparents never divorce their grandchildren but sometimes they get lost and the kids don't get to see them when a divorce happens. I learned a great deal from my family relationships, I grew up thinking that cousins were brothers and sisters that lived in a different house, we stayed with them, they stayed with us it was close. Now I don't know so many of them, who they are or who they have become, I tried, but people get so busy they seem to forget family. I suppose that when someone never sees a grandchild, and finds companionship in a pet then they turn to that pet, and so yes they spend more on pets than on grandchildren. What do you think about the fact that to often are families are so dysfunctional that they become disposable?
1 response
• United States
22 Mar 07
I grew up with a massive extended family and my grandfather was clearly the elder/leader. My grandparents grew up in rural Tennesseen in the Great Depression and taught those values to all of us. As a product of a successful traditional family model I sometimes find it hard to believe when I here the stories from my friends about their horrendous families. Are we the minority now?
@nowment (1758)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Yes I am beginning to think that those of us who grew up spending a lot of time with extended family and showing respect to our grandparents and valuing them for the history they hold are in fact in a minority I don't like when the political nonsense spouts off on family values because they are using it as a sound byte with no real depth. Yet it is true that to often the family is going away and fading out, I know of so many who just don't seem to have any real connection to their families. I am very close to my niece she is important to me, and I have been a second mother to her, I was close to one uncle in particular to the point that my mom said that sometimes I was more like him than my father, which is true. Yet the man I am with barely knows his nieces and nephews, this is the choice of the parents of these kids, and I just don't get how you don't want to be close with your family try to be friends with them, and include them in your children's lives, I would think people would welcome having someone else love and value and be willing to protect and care for their children, not draw away from it. His family is not an interferring kind so they can have that closeness without stepping on each other's toes or telling each other how to live their lives.