Is it just me or does this bug you too?

Hubby laying on the couch - Little Monkey had us up all night with an ear infection that night. He was only a month old. Hubby had to rest.
@Caila611 (992)
United States
March 23, 2007 3:40pm CST
My hubby has fallen asleep on the couch lots of times. And I understand that he is tired but it bugs me when he does this. I would much rather him go to bed than take over the couch all night. I really don't mind if he goes to bed early but It bugs me when i have to enjoy a quiet (or not so quiet (he snores) evening alone with him on the couch. I don't know how to really explain it but i would rather spend the evening by myself watching a movie than having to squish onto the couch and listen to him snore all night long. The other night I even asked him three times to go to bed. He kept telling me he wasn't sleeping. UMMMM hon you were snoring! Am I the only one that gets a tad irritated at this?
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
23 Mar 07
That's funny, My hubby does that all the time, so i just pick and pick till he goes to bed, but that's usually after about half an hour of me sitting there half laughing at him and half thinking that that's just the cutest thing ever... I can't get enough, i just kinda wanna squeeze his cheaks, cause he's just too cute. Wow do i sound like a nut job haha, i have gotten irritated, but i can't stay frustrated at him long, ever... One of these days i'm sure i'll get mad and haul him off to bed though haha, i showed him not long ago that i can pick him up and cary him around, so he knows damn well if he doesn't do what i want him to when i want him to, eventually i'll do something about it ;) hahaha.
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@BarBaraPrz (19848)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
24 Mar 07
Maybe you SHOULD squeeze his cheeks... it would probably wake him up. If he complains, just tell him you only squeeze his cheeks when he's asleep on the couch... ;o)
@sunnypub (2131)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I think our husbands must be related because mine does the same thing. And yes it really bothers me. When I wake him up to tell him to go to bed he tells me that he doesn't want to go to bed that early. I remind him that he was already sleeping on the couch but he says it isn't the same thing. Whatever. I don't understand why he doens't want to go to sleep early, I mean he gets us really early to go to work so it makes sense that he would go to bed early. What I really hate is when he falls asleep on the couch and then gets woken up because we are making too much noise, and then he gets mad at us for waking him up. Well go sleep in bed then. It is defiantely irritating.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
Nope I get irritated too. I like to read at night, and if he is sleeping on the sofa, and the TV is on I can not read. When I turn the TV Off, he wakes up and says, I was watching that UGG!!!!
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23 Mar 07
I'm afraid that I have to admit to doing this myself. :-) I sometimes drop off in the easy chair late in the evenings and it annoys my wife. The weird thing is that I don't snore or anything; she just 'knows' when I drop to sleep. She can be typing away at her computer and she'll apparently sense that I've dropped off. I've found the cure for me is to make sure I don't get too comfortable. :-) I also find I doze off more if I'm a little thirsty / dehydrated, so I'll often get a glass of water around 10-00pm. Some years ago the local TV network ran 'The X Files' late in the evening. The number of episodes where I fell to sleep and missed the last 10 minutes is beyond counting.
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• United States
24 Mar 07
Whats wrong with working hard all day and coming home and crashing. You're at least lucky to have him come home and be there. You should have said something like "Does it bug you guys that your husband works so hard everyday providing for you and getting you food and shelter?" I kid, I kid....I think I do this sometimes too. A man and his couch cannot be seperated!
• United States
24 Mar 07
oops, wanted to respond to the whole thing....
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@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
23 Mar 07
You are not alone. I hate it when we go through this. He actually gets upset if I tell him yes he was asleep and to go to bed. Heaven forbid you change the TV station cause they wake up saying.. Hey I was watching that. I always want to say were they snoring on that show too? I have found if I leave him alone and get on the computer it drives him nuts so sooner or later he gets up and goes to bed. He says the tapping of the keyboard makes too much noise*L* I think it is because he knows that I am not sitting there in the same room kind of like a child that wants mommy to stay with them until they fall asleep*L* Don't have many solutions for you but I totally understand what you are going through!!
23 Mar 07
My dad says that thing about the keys making so much noise... I never knew men were sooooo sensitive!! He also does the thing if you change the TV station - he is snoring and wakes up to make the comment that he was watching it... makes me want to get a frying pan and clonk him one on the head lol.
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@sweetlady10 (3619)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I don't like if anybody fall asleep on the couch either. My hubby does not snor, but after that also I don't like if he sometime fall asleep on the couch. Actually I feel like he is sleeping so uncomfortably. So, I want him to go to bed for sleep.
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• Canada
23 Mar 07
I'm with you on this one. How aggravating is that? If you're tired, just go to bed. Why do these people insist on hogging the couch and putting us through an excruciating evening of snoring. I've woken my husband many times to him telling me that he wasn't sleeping, just resting his eyes. That's a good one. It is just selfish of them to do this to us. Why ruin a good evening? I guess we're imagining all that snoring.
23 Mar 07
This discussion could have been written by me, but instead of hubby... insert the word "dad". He does exactly the same... both my mum and myself say to him: if you are that tired please go to bed. Of course he never does go to bed. He makes up all these excuses about how he was not asleep, not snoring, was listening to the tv etc. We would both rather that he just went upstairs as it's off putting trying to watch something or talk when someone is snoring away on the sofa. It makes me so mad I feel quite tense when I am in the same room and he is doing that. I still haven't found a solution. I can't understand it really as if I feel tired enough to go to sleep, I would rather go to bed and properly sleep than lie half-drooling on the couch.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
When I was a child, my dad used to sleep on the couch after a long day at work. But now, he gets used to going upstairs and sleeping on the bed, instead of on the couch. It's a good habit.
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@lynninky (491)
• United States
24 Mar 07
It is upseting sometimes. Sometime I am so tired myself I like haing the bed all to myself. So I just go to bed and let him sleep there in the morning he is asking why I did not wake him up. I told him I tried to but he would not wake up.So from now on he would be sleeping there if he fell awake there. Now he gets up a goes to bed... ;)
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@Caila611 (992)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I do that too. Usually he will wake up about four am and come to bed. LOL! He always complains that our couch is very uncomfortable to sleep on. DUH!! then go to bed!!
• Bangladesh
24 Mar 07
Snoring is a very bad habit and I had bad experience of it. Sometimes it is a matter of big disturbances during sleeping. Sometimes the kids get afraid to hear the sound of snoring. 2 of my family members have this habit and we are the victims...lol.
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@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
24 Mar 07
Have mercy on the poor man. He probably is very tired and has had a stressful day. Believe it or not, he very very well snore so much because he loves you so much. Being with you may let him relax so much that he snores. My wife tells me that I snore. I think it is because I can really relax when I am with her.
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@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
24 Mar 07
I know exactly what you mean. My boyfriend does the exact same thing. He will even fall asleep sitting up..which is even funnier...I get the same response from him..and then seconds later he is asleep again... I wish I could just fall asleep at the drop of a dime...it must be nice!
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@clary21 (58)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I am usually the one who falls asleep on the couch while watching television. Neither one of us minds if this happens to the other. If I want to read I go into another room. If I want to watch something else, I go to the bedroom and watch it on the other set. It's not that big a deal.
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@EvanHunter (4028)
• United States
24 Mar 07
Awe what a cute picture how could you get upset when seeing that. I do this all the time too and have spent the night on the couch even though others have tried to evict me from it. I also have another problem when I am sleeping and that is I can have full conversations without recalling anything I have said. Someone will call I will answer the phone talk to them for 5 minutes hang up go back to snoring my had off and when I awake not recall a thing I said or who I was talking to. Maybe your husband is a bit like me and when he is telling you he isnt tired he is totally out of it.
@tishabest (602)
• Belgium
24 Mar 07
Oh I am the guilty party on that one! It's a good thing we have two sofas but I just like being around him even if I am half asleep or snoring LOL But with one sofa I totally understand you and he should get into the habit of going to bed when he feels sleepy. Good luck!
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• United States
24 Mar 07
I understand the irritation all too well. My husband does that to me all the time. And I hear 'I am not sleeping' Ummm you were snoring dear. 'NO I WAS NOT' Its a never ending battle. I have learned to be a little better about it though as he has sleep apnea. Its getting better but not totally yet.
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@stormygrl (763)
• United States
24 Mar 07
yes it is irritating but I really hate that you have to be quiet so they don't get woke up. I say go to bed then. Usually he is because of getting up early for work but does take short naps, but he's not really sleeping...mm
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• United States
24 Mar 07
That wouldnt bother me although my husband goes to bed and not on the couch. I think I would put a tv up in my room and let him dose off on the couch . Then you could fall asleep watching tv in your bed. Or then again he might be more apt to go to bed with a tv in the room.
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• Canada
24 Mar 07
I can actually say that this is never a problem with me. When i was 18 it was a problem but now I have a Wife that I want to go to bed with. The couch is made for footbal watching here never sleeping.
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