The one you love but doesnt love you or the person who loves you but u dont love

March 24, 2007 12:53am CST
I find it such difficult to choose between the two scenario... there was a point in my life that I have been into the situation. How will you choose someone that you love when you know that he/she doesnt care about you... isn't if foolish and unfair? How are you supposed to be happy when the relationship will just be one way? Isnt it that it should be a two-way traffic? What if you choose the person that loves you but you never cared about? Do you think that it will make you happy?
2 responses
@nengs10 (3189)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Given those 2 choices, I would most likely choose the person who loves me but I don't really love. I think it's better that way for me to be loved truly by someone. I believe that love can be learned so, who knows, as time goes, I will just learn to love her. I chose this because it will be my comfort to have someone by my side to caress and give me joy.
@Leonette (58)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
Hi kenneth77. I think those are situations that many of us encounter at some point in our lives. I have been into those kinds of situation. In my experience, when i chose the one I love, I only felt happiness during the first few months. Well, in all fairness to him, maybe he loves me but not as much as I love him. Then, I also experience choosing someone who loves me though I don't love him that much. Honestly, I became happier. He makes me feel special. But things still went wrong so it didn't last. Ideally, i also think it has to be two way but that doesn't always happen. There were some who were lucky enough to experince that but for us who don't i guess it is a matter of commitment. Whether we chose the one who loves us or the one we love, the relationship will fall apart if we don't know how to appreciate and respect our partner. If me and my partner could do that to each other i think both of us will be happy. Hope this helps... :