Baby insomnia?

@GuateMom (1411)
Canada
March 25, 2007 6:19am CST
My son is a terrible sleeper (my husband says he gets it from me, which is probably true!) and at night, as long as my husband is the one who gets up to change him, he is fine and goes back to sleep. But this morning, my dear hubby decided that he wanted to stay sleeping and refused to get up, so I did and now, an hour and a half later, my son is still awake! It is so frustrating since I can´t sleep if he is up in the other room, and I am running on just three hours of sleep from trying to finish a tight deadline last night! Anyone else have this problem?
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@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
I guess it depends on your the routine you have & child's age - looking at the photo i would guess he's older (over 6 months) & if that's the case, i'd have thought he'd be sleeping all night without waking in the middle. Perhaps you could just try giving him a bigger feed before bed & see if that helps him to sleep longer. Perhaps you could just ask your Dr about reasons he isn't sleeping as long as you'd expected - Dr's always know best i think!
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
25 Mar 07
My son is 15 months. He has never slept well, unfortunately, he just came home from the hospital wide awake and never looked back! :) He didn´t even nap after 2 months. I have no idea how he survives on so little sleep, and I know he ought to sleep through the night (oh, how I wish he would!) but he wakes up two to three times still and wants his bottle. We have tried numerous times to wean him off it, but that has only resulted in weeks of zero sleeping and 24 hours of crying for days and days on end. I think I just ended up with a really stubborn kid, because he doesn´t cry himself to sleep like any other child I know, he will literally scream all night long!
• Australia
26 Mar 07
You little one sounds "heypre active"
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
Yeah, that might be the problem! :) He´s a little young to be diagnosed, but he sure is heading in that direction!
• United States
26 Mar 07
i feel so bad for you, i was there once. i couldnt take it anymore, i needed sleep, and so did my husband. i knew i had to do somehting about it and fast becuase in a few months we were going to be expecting another baby. so here is what i did, hope it helps. i gave him his bottle while he was still awake, but before his bedtime. he got sleepy, but i didnt let him fall asleep, i wanted him to be awake when i put him in his bed. while he was drowsy, i layed him in bed. of course he cried his head off, but i told him "time for night night". i put a blanket and pillow on the floor for myself and tried to go to sleep there. he cried for a long time. i didnt make eye contact with him, i just stayed quiet and let him cry. after about 10 minutes or so, i got back up and layed him back down. he was still screaming his head off and stood back up, i layed back down on the floor. this went on for an hour or so. finally he sat in his crib and kept crying. i didnt get up anymore, i just let him stay sitting there and eventually he layed down and cried until he got tired and fell asleep. he was re-energized and woke back up to cry some more. it was a long night, but i kept doing the same thing over and over again. this went on for about 3-4 days. then the crying started to get shorter and shorter. i think he realized that i wasnt going to pick him up or give him a bottle, so he would just give up. he would still wake up in the middle of the night to cry but each time it got less and less. eventually, he would wake up, whimper a little, look at me, and then go back to bed. he wasnt asleep, but he was just laying there, then he would fall asleep. i think i stayed in there for about a week and a half. it worked for us, so i hope it might work for you. but oh my goodness, its going to take a lot of patience and sleeplessness. good luck to you.
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
Wow, I really admire you for being able to do that! I am so overtired that I find myself getting too frustrated to stay in the same room as my son. I am also expecting a baby in May, so I know what you mean about urgency. Perhaps if my husband and I take turns with your method it will work out.:) Thank you for the information.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Mar 07
babies are so unpredictable in terms of sleeping,,especially if disturbed..maybe your baby have slept well during the day..try scheduling his time of sleeping and dont let him sleep if its nearly 4:00 oclock in the afternoon...yes i have that problem in my first child coz i dont know yet how to handle his sleeping pattern..
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
He doesn´t usually nap at all in the afternoon. If he sleeps badly at night, he will get up at 5 or 6 am and have a nap around 8 and that is usually it for the day!
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
25 Mar 07
My oldest is not a great sleeper, he's a very light sleeper. He wasn't ever crazy about his naps, but I can still get him to take them from time to time (he's 2 1/2). If I were you, I would talk to your doctor. Maybe there is some underlying condition that is making him not be able to sleep. He shouldn't be waking up anymore in the middle of the night, it's not only hard on you and the hubby, but it's hard on him too. Children, especially young toddlers need their sleep, without it, they are not only grumpy, but they cannot focus as easily, which means they are not learning like they need to. At his age, he really should still be taking a nap. Sometimes, if a child is not getting enough daytime sleep, it begins to effect his night time sleep, and they will actually wake up more in the middle of the night, and be more restless. Consider what time you put him down? some kids need to go to bed early. My oldest, if I put him down later then 7:30, he'd be up every couple of hours, but if I put him to bed at 7:00 he'd sleep the whole night and sleep in until 7-8:00, otherwise he woke up around 6:00. I finally have gotten him to a later bed time (8:00), that's easier on the rest of the family. Also, try and break him of the milk habit at nighttime. I know this is hard, as my oldest was still drinking milk in bed when he was 15 months or so. We did it gradually. We started mixing his milk with water, then we'd just give him water after awhile. Eventually he decided he didn't want to wake up for water, so he started sleeping better. (drinking milk in the middle of the night can have a lot of unwanted affects, not only will you create a dependency for it, but it can also cause tooth decay, with all the sugars from the milk sitting on their teeth) I hope I helped. It's hard to figure out what will work for your child in order to get them sleeping through the night, but it's important that they get their rest. I would definitely talk to the doctor though, and make sure your kiddo is okay, and maybe the doc has some ideas that may help him sleep better. Good Luck!!
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
We have talked to the doctor a couple of times. His best guess was that my son is somewhat traumatized from repeated surgeries (he was born with a birth defect that required an emergency colostomy at birth and two follow up surgeries). Physically, there is nothing wrong with him, but the doctor said that he probably just needs reassurance that we are there and will keep him safe. Not that that helps us sleep! :) We have a tranquilizer to give him, but I don´t like to give him too many medicines and it doesn´t have much effect anyway! We actually have been working on watering down his bottle, but he is pretty stubborn, once it gets down to almost water, he starts handing it back until we put more milk in it! I don´t think the bedtime is a problem, we put him down at 7 every night, 6:30 if he really is worn out from not napping. I´ve found that if we wait too long, he gets so overtired he won´t be able to fall asleep at all!
@gemini1960 (1161)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
babies sleep frequently..and it changes as they grow up i have 5 children and i know that..and i have experienced that too..cbabies who wake up in the middle of the night and jsut play for hoe many hours...
@bad1981 (799)
• United States
26 Mar 07
My son will be 2 in june and the boy is also like this. He doesnt do it always but some night he wakes up 1am like he is rested and wantes to play for a few hours and then falls back asleep. He also still gets up through the night to drink once of twice. My 3 month old daughter is already sleeping better then him. Hang in there it has to get better. Heck who needs sleep right...LOL
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
Yup, sleep is highly overrated! :) I´m really hoping my new baby (due in May) will sleep better than this! I will seriously die of sleep exhaustion if they both do the same thing! My son does the playing thing sometimes, too. Do you let yours get up at that hour? I don´t because I worry that he will make it a habit, so he just sits and talks in his crib and throws all his blankets on the floor!
• United States
26 Mar 07
Maybe your son senses your nervous energy and your frustration at him being up so late? Have you tried relaxing scents in his room to help soothe him back to sleep? Soft relaxing music? A number of things could work, you'll probably just have to try and see which ones will.
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
26 Mar 07
Just another option, if all else is failing. Try moving the bed to another position in the room. There is such a thing as bad earth lines which can badly effect peoples sleep and health. You know when you walk into a place and you just don't like it, or you prefer to sit in one chair and not the other. Children especially are very sensitive so may be this is the problem. Worth a go.
@myklaire (437)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
My son is 6 months old now. He does more sleeping than staying up. My hubby says he really is like me coz I do love to sleep. I sleep more than eight hours...
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@deepti15 (1190)
• India
26 Mar 07
Well this is something all parents especially the working parents , imean where both husband and wife go to work, is a deadly problem. Kids wake up at the darkest hour of night when you are in your sweetest of dreams and most wanted slumber. I know how much it hurts, cause there is nothing you can do at that hour of night. And sleep is so irrestible, my god , its so tough. Hope you can somehow overcome this. Make your kid sleep in some nappy or something so that he doesnt wet and wake up, hope this works.
@jack914 (66)
• China
26 Mar 07
A lovely boy,i love him.if i have so little pretty boy.i feel happy and proud.congratulations to you ,my friend,you are so lukcy.
• United States
25 Mar 07
Well when I do have this problem wiyh my child, what I have to do is act like i'm sleeping and he ends up falling asleep for me. Or sometimes I have to lay and hug him for him to fall asleep. And while doing that I also pat his butt or rub his head and that also works for me. That might sound a lot but it's only once in a great while for me to that for him. You can try my method. I suggest that you don't do it all the time because he will end up getting used to it and want you to that all the time.
• Australia
26 Mar 07
Many people don't realize that 12% of the world's baby population suffer from baby sleep apnea. I feel if the baby consistently cries through the night or has restless sleep, it's well worth investigating.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
26 Mar 07
He won´t sleep with me. He has never slept with us, not even when I tried to rock him to sleep as a tiny baby, he has always preferred to be alone to sleep, which is good in a way! :) How do you go about checking for sleep apnea? And could it be hereditary, because my father has a very severe form of that, he has to sleep with a machine blowing air into his lungs so he doesn´t stop breathing completely.
@DANDTON (75)
• China
26 Mar 07
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