"I LOVE YOU"... do you prefer in words or in actions?

Philippines
March 25, 2007 7:09am CST
for the receiver: often people would prefer to feel loved and cared for and would probably choose the actions rather than the words. for some, they would prefer to hear the words coz that's giving it straight to them as compared to guessing what the message/signal is by his actions towards you. so, do you prefer to hear the words or see the actions? for the doer: some people can express it better in actions rather than words. but some are more expressive and more confident to put into words whatever they are feeling. so, are you more of the "word" person or the "action" person?
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I feel loved by my husband through actions. He does tell me he loves me, but anyone can say that. The way he looks at me, cares for me, everything he does for me. That's how I know he truly loves me. Actions always speak louder than words !!!
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• United States
26 Mar 07
It's the little things that really matter, like when my hubby used to bring me a cup of coffee every morning for 20 years, and how he helped me do the housework when I wasn't feeling well. He also told me he loved me, but it was the actions that made the most difference. I KNEW he loved me because of what he did, not because of what he said.
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• Philippines
26 Mar 07
this is so romantic! :)
25 Mar 07
I love to be told "I love you" from my boyfriend, but I feel like sometimes the phrase is over used so it doesnt mean as much.. so when you say it's just like "yeah I love you...", "I love you too" and we don't really think about the words. I think actions are SO important... little surprises all the time are lovely, and they reinforce the words. So, I think both words and actions are important if you love someone, and that one without the other is meaningless. xx
25 Mar 07
oops, I forgot to add... hearing "I love you" through SONG from a partner... wow :)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
i like hearing the words too as well as feeling the actions that go with it. :) thanks amandamoo.
@melanie652 (2526)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Both. I want to hear the words and I appreciate seeing the actions too. Because I'm that way, I assume others are too. My hubby tells me he loves me, but when he does things like changes the oil in my truck for me, I appreciate seeing those feelings in action.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
i want the words too, but it's not enough. you gotta see some action too. :) thanks!
• United States
25 Mar 07
I prefer to be shown the love. Anybody can say the magic words "I love you". Truly meaning it has a different feeling. I am a shower for sure I don't say I love you to anyone. Other than My daughter and my mother. I really believe it's not for the random abuse. I hear I hear so many people abuse this term. I would not mind never hearing it unless at my wedding.
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
there's only one guy i've ever said "i love you" to. and i agree, it should never be abused.
@tatzkie (644)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
i think im an action person.. but i do express my love through words too... but of course i prefer to be love and to love through actions.
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• Philippines
25 Mar 07
as the saying goes... actions speak louder than words. thanks tatzkie! :)
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• India
26 Mar 07
I have never told to my girlfriend "I love you". She doesn't want me to say "I love you". She says "love, if felt, it need no be said in words. I can feel you everywhere in my body n soul. Loving is more important than saying." Hence I never had to say it. I m a pure action person
• India
26 Mar 07
it is better if our partner understand it without saying but ultimately it is better to make it clearify and say these words. because people always wait and want to hear that from others but if everybody would think the same. it will getter worse.
• United States
26 Mar 07
In my opinion, "I love you" is a phrase that is often over used. And because it is often over used it loses it's meaning. I love to hear my husband whisper sweet nothings in my ear, but it means nothing unless he is able to prove it with his actions.
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
yup. words are just words when it has no meaning, or no actions to go with it. :) thanks!
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
If not both, I'd rather choose "actions". What are the words for if the action of loving is not there. It is really much easier to say things than to perform, right? Would you wanna hear the words "I love you" each and every day but not feel the sincerity of such? Well, I guess not.
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• Philippines
27 Mar 07
yup, better be sincere about it otherwise, words or actions are both meaningless. :) thanks
• India
25 Mar 07
While actions are important, I find it an important part to tell and to be told that love is still strong. In a relationship the way you behave love is felt. However, being told "I love you" ever once in a while does make a lot of difference. It keeps the relationship renewed.
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• Philippines
27 Mar 07
yeah, being told and telling "i love you" makes a difference. :) thanks!
@yanstill (1491)
• China
25 Mar 07
i will not feel safe until i hear those words,action works to me,but still,i need those words.
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• Philippines
26 Mar 07
yeah, sometimes, we need the words too as much as the actions. thanks!
@ElicBxn (60081)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Well, I don't know about "I love you" but I want to hear that people appreciate it when I do something. I am NO cook, so I've got a job where I'm fixing a meal for a lady twice a day. Now, if I just open a can, I don't think she needs to tell me I did a good job, but if I actually COOK something, I want to know I did all right. I need to know if I messed it up badly (like the gravy) or I did pretty good, like my first go at pancakes (they were a little black, but it was my first time, and they weren't BURNT.) Actually, she likes somethings a little burnt so I guess I could get away with it. Heck, I've dodged cooking for 50 odd years, not bad.
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• Philippines
25 Mar 07
-lol- quite a long time, you did fairly well dodging it. :)
@ana1361 (98)
• Sweden
25 Mar 07
i prefer in action rather than in words .howerver every one needs to be heard with partner that word but again i think its better in action
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• Philippines
25 Mar 07
for most, action is prefered... but better with words too. thanks ana1361!
@mssnow (9496)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I like both. I like to be told I'm loved and i like to be shown I'm loved. If you wanna be with me you will know how to do this. I also give my love back. in many many ways. I say "I love you" everyday. I show the person i love them as much as possible. So yeah both for me.
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@shywolf (4529)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I think that I would rather have the actions than the words. A person can say "I love you" hundreds of times over and never do a single thing to show it.. and that wouldn't do too much for my heart, I have to admit. I would hate to never, ever hear the words - but if it came right down to a choice between never hearing it again and having someone show me that they loved me every single day, or someone saying it every day but not doing a single thing to show it, there would be absolutely no contest as to which one I would choose. I also would like to endeavour to always show the person that I love, that I love them, every day. That would be easier for me than saying it, as the words have never come easy to me because I'm shy and my family has also never been the type to say I love you.
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• United States
25 Mar 07
I personally would rather have someone prove they love me through their actions. Anyone can blurt out the words and not mean them. If their actions are speaking as well then I know it is true. I do both.
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• Philippines
26 Mar 07
im more on a "action person".,I love being pampered and I love the one I love do the same..
@karen_24 (320)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
that's true......:)
@shooie (4989)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I prefer both. I love it when he holds me in his arms and whispers I love you or he brings me something or does something special for me. I can't choose just one way because I prefer both.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
your avatar is as sensual as i think you are, thank you. i like the whispher thing too. :)
@joyce959 (1563)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
When I first met my bf now my hubby, I didnt like him at once. But he showed me that he really care and love me by fetching me from home and accompany in job hunting at that time. He was always around to show that he really support in whatever I do and care for what I do. When I got the job, he would fetch me at the house and send me off to my work, after office work, he was there to fetch me again and bring me home. That was how I was developed to love him. He is not a man of words but a man of action. He can't say the word " I love You" face to face but he says it through letters and cards and by his actions. I am not also a woman of words, but a woman of action, that's why I guess my hubby and I compliment each other. I say "I love you" through messages (cards,SMS, IM-YM, emails) and show my love on how I treat him, care for him. Importantly, it is not how often you tell "I love You", it is how sincere you are and saying it coming from your heart when you say it; and it should be shown together with actions. I think that is the best way to show how you love someone.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
thanks for sharing that. little things done with a lot of sincerity are the things that make us appreciate the person more. :)
@dbeast (1500)
• India
25 Mar 07
i would like to be as expressive as possible.i would say i am both the word and he action kind of guy.it all depends on the time and the situation.i tend to be at my best telling the person how much i love her and what a lot she meansto me.there is nothing better in telling it directly but at times i think it is great to be expressive and showing them by ations that we care.our body language towards them will help them get the message what we are trying to reveal.but i feel a cobination of both is really essential for any type of relationship.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
i think you're a romantic kind of guy. nice! :)
• Romania
25 Mar 07
Hey ! I personally think that in love we need to learn to feel and express ourselves both in words and actions .. `cause there are moments when nothing can make you feel better than hearing those peacefull words "I love you " said from the bottom of the heart .. but yet .. we also often need a warm hug .. a sweet kiss .. with no reason .. just because .. And lets don`t forget .. actions are needed in order to keep love alive .. `cause if not .. sometimes "I love you" can get to mean .. "Good bye" ..
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
yeah, i love doing things ... just because... :) thanks chrissygirl! :)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I think if the person means what they're saying than the words are just as powerful as the action. When you think of it, saying I love you is an action. You have to speak to say it, and speaking is acting. It all depends on what the person expressing it is more comfortable doing. If a person easily expresses themselves through actions but has a hard time verbally expressing, than if they say I love you, it would mean more, to me atleast. I do have to admit, I tend to lean toward the action side. You can say something all you want, but if you don't show it somehow, your words carry no weight.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
i myself have difficulty saying "i love you". that's why people know that when i say it, i truly mean it. :)