Law on Battered Husbands
By cdparazo
@cdparazo (5765)
Philippines
March 26, 2007 4:58am CST
We have laws now protecting women from violence and abuse from their husbands or any male for that matter. But men also rose up and asked about a law protection those men who are also battered or abused physically by their women. Do you think that there really is a need to pass a law against abuse of husbands from their wife? I don't think that it is necessary because statistics says that abuse are being done more on the women and men by nature are more physically strong and able compared to women.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
26 Mar 07
What's wrong with a law that protects men as well as women in the abuse factor? Men aren't abused you're saying? Men can't send a wife to jail for her beating the daylights out of him?
I don't see one thing wrong with this law at all.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
Nothing is wrong with such law Grandpa Bob. I just find it unnecessary because men can always protect themselves and are far stronger than women. Those men who gets beaten by their wives choose to remain passive and not raise a hand against those women however then can always defend themselves if they choose too. Women can't really harm them if we just base it on strength. Unlike women who gets beaten by men, no matter how they may defend themselves against such men, their strenght is just no match againts that of men.
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@littlemissmistress (187)
• United States
28 Mar 07
A friend of mine was beaten by his ex-wife quite a few times before he found the strength to leave. He ended up in the hospital a couple of times -- if picturing a woman sheepishly lying to explain mysterious injuries to a nurse or doctor is enough to make you wince, imagine a man having to do the same to avoid having his wife thrown in jail.
It works both ways -- both genders are capable of horrible things, and of inflicting terrible suffering. There shouldn't be "separate" laws protecting men from women and women from men -- it should just be "it's a bad thing to smack your spouse around, no matter what gender you are or what gender your spouse is."
If we just protect women, what happens when gay men can finally, legally marry in the US? "Sorry, you're gay, so no protection against spousal abuse for you" doesn't seem right, does it? Or what about between girlfriends and boyfriends? Only 9% of domestic abuse, according to the Department of Justice, is between spouses. I think the laws you are talking about are too specific.
Statistically, men are more likely to abuse women than women are to abuse men, but it *does* happen. My friend's got the scars to prove it.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
You have a very good point here that it does happen and it happens not only to women and that everybody should be protected. According to my lawyer friend, our law provides protection and remebdy for any individuals who gets abused or physically harmed. However, the Philippines have specific law when the abused are women because usually there are children who are also affected. It's a matter of how to address the case that we become specific such as the husband is ordered by the court to leave the house instead of the woman who will be leaving the house with the children. Before, the women leaves the husband when she cannot take the abuses anymore. But where will she go with her children. Now she could go to the court and have the husband ordered to leave the house instead. I don't really know about gay men and I guess it does merit looking into by our legislators. I just hope that they would also get represented so that laws for their protection will be passed also.
@jollyjeangiant (219)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I believe it is necessary. The numbers don't matter, this is a question of discrimination. In effect, America is saying that it is all right for women to hit men but not the other way around. This is not the goal that the women's rights movement set out to achieve: the goal is equality, not superiority. No one deserves to have no recourse if abused. Ever. You'll notice that there's also a lack of laws about people abusing their homosexual partners too. Isn't that just as unfair? I'm not one for big government, but I do think we should be equal opportunity about this.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
Saying that the law is unnecessary is not synonymous to being superior as women or making the abuse okay. As I said that abuse should not be tolerated no matter who gets abused. Law on men being abused is unnecessary because men has the strenght to actually stop the abuser unlike women who really need protection from law because no matter how much we may parry all those blows, we are just not physically capable of successfully defending ourselves when faced with brute strenght far more superior than ours.
