Why cheat?

United States
March 27, 2007 8:51pm CST
I am wondering after reading some of the posts on here about cheating and relationships, why cheat? I just don't understand why people do that, why not just tell them that you don't love them anymore. Or better yet, why not just say I am having doubts about us? I am happily married to a wonderful man, and we've always been honest with each other. What i'm wondering is why can you people who cheat just be honest? I understand sometimes you just don't want to hurt someone, however isn't it better to say something before you do something you might regret? SilentRose
1 response
• United States
28 Mar 07
Let me make it clear that I have never cheated before. I have done extensive studies on divorce, though, so I understand the concept well. Now, people tend to cheat for several reasons. 1. They get bored. Waking up to the same person every day loses its spark after a while. Sleeping with someone else keeps it exciting, changing. 2. They do it out of spite. If you say something mean, they feel like a good revenge would be sleeping around. 3. They are honestly looking for love, but want something stable to fall back on. 4. They didn't love you in the first place and were using you for money, home, etc. 5. They don't feel appreciated, and they think someone else will appreciate them more. These are just a few. The reasons they are not honest are numerous as well. 1. The children. 2. Fear of being alone. 3. Potential for divorce, or breakup. 4. Friends and family ridicule. 5. Length of relationship. 6. Don't want to hurt the partner. People have excuses for cheating, but it is never acceptable. I hope this insight helps.