Spanking - should we do it?
@countrylady28 (153)
United States
3 responses
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
30 Mar 07
Spanking kids every time is not good as the child becomes stubbrun in most of the cases and even they will overcome the fear towards you. Spanking once in a while is ok to keep the child in control works well and even they will not develop hatered towards parents,so what i think is spanking is an illtreatment towards kids and we should just maintain them by scolding as spanking is inhuman that to in case of kids.
@countrylady28 (153)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I think one important thing for us to remember is that not all children will respond to spanking and not all children will respond to scolding. I was spanked probably 4 times as a child, but at critical ages. I still remember the spankings, not because they hurt that bad, but because that was the point at which it "sunk in" that what I did was really wrong. I can assure you I never did it again. (1 - run across a busy parkinglot, 2 - start mom's car and put it in gear, 3 - attempting to flush my sister's hamster down the toilet, 4 - hiding from my mom in the mall). After the spankings, my mom explained to me why I got the spanking, hugged me, and told me that she forgave me and we could move on. I support spanking, but it must be done in the right way, with the right child, and with love - not out of anger. My mom also let me know how much it hurt her heart to spank me, but she knew me as a child and new that scolding me for those things was going to go in one ear and out the other.
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Spanking can be an effective form of discipline. So can a smack on the hand for example. That is often put in with spanking but wanted to state it. Many parents will do the smack on the hand and not even realize it. For example you see the child going to poke a stick into a socket, you smack the hand and tell them no. It works. A swat on a well padded diapered butt does nothing but afront the dignity of the child. They think twice before they do it again. They understand that a lot more then they do "Honey, that scares mommy when you do that. Please don't do that again."
That being said I don't think it should be the only form of discpline used with a child. There are many forms and it depends on the age of the child, the incident, etc. Also for some taking a way a doll is more traumatic then anything in the world you could physically do to them. One has to match the discpline with the child. Not everything works for every type of child.
@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I will be honest here. I used to. Not hard or what I would consider a "beating". But I realized one day when I spanked my daughter for hitting her brother that I was teaching her that you use physical force when someone does something that was wrong in your opinion. I was spanking her for slapping her brother??? I mean, she hit him because he did something she didn't like? Didn't make sense. I realize it was stupid and I no longer do it. I do the time out spot and it actually, to my surprise, is more effective. I don't judge others if they spank - this is just what I decided to do.
