Children and Rules
By Joslyn77
@Joslyn77 (374)
United States
March 29, 2007 9:05pm CST
Why do we bother setting house rules when all my children do is break them. I feel that I am doing something wrong. We have talked about them and yelled and gave out punishment,but those same rules keep getting broke. Is anyone else having trouble making their kids stick to rules? Here is one that is driving me crazy. No eating anywhere,but the table and yet my children keep bringing food into our family room or sneak snacks up to their bedrooms. Darn it anyway!!!!!!
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3 responses
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Is there any way you can put the snacks somewhere where the kids can't get them? Where you are in total control of them? Also, I agree that it is important to lead by example. If you want them to eat at the table only, so must you. Have you explained to them about bugs and mice?
As for the other rules, gentle repetition and appropriate punishments. Take away something they want/enjoy so they will remember next time not to do it again.
I only had to take away Joey's toys twice for not picking them up and he learned I meant what I said about pick them up or they are mine. What do they enjoy? TV, video games, or dessert?
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@ScrappinHappyMom (914)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Children learn through the repeat process. So you just have to consistent in your follow through. Think back to when you were in school, how many times did you do the same thing over and over.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I did for a period. You just have to keep being consistent with the punishments. But the punishments need to be something they won't like and that will deter them from repeating this again. Just yelling won't do it. I used to do that and it did no good. I started taking things away from her and would give them back when she could prove to me that she was eating at the table only. Eventually she got the idea.
